Last night, my fabulous coach, Kendra Thornbury, and I diagnosed some lurking perfectionitis.
This is the need to do everything perfectly.
Not only has perfectionitis been a significant contributor to my past struggles with my weight, but I see the majority of the women I work with suffering from it, as well.
It often shows up as the need to do a diet and exercise program perfectly, or you might as well give up. Not only is that unrealistic, it’s exhausting. And it means that one mistake can sabotage months’ worth of progress.
In my case, it’s showing up as the feeling that I need to be perfect in order to be successful at business—and be credible to you fabulous clients and readers.
And my reaction to this diagnosis was pretty text-book. “Seriously? I thought I had gotten rid of all that!”
Not very tolerant or supportive of myself, eh?
Ah, the self-development work never ends! And you know what? It’s not supposed to.
Because we are all perfect in our imperfection.
So for the record:
I’m totally and completely imperfect AND I’m awesome.
My body is imperfect AND I’m beautiful.
My eating is imperfect AND I’m healthy and slim.
I’m self-critical AND I love and appreciate myself.
I’ve created a life that I love AND there’s room to make it even better.
Once again, I remind myself of what I know.
There is no “one right way” to do anything. By being more tolerant and supportive of yourself, you help lift the “all or nothing” requirement for success—for any goal.
By giving yourself some relief from perfectionitis, you more easily and consistently move towards the best possible version of you—which is an every changing mark.
I’m reinstating my personal “No Regrets” policy. This gives me the ability to start each day with a fresh opportunity to do the very best I can.
And I encourage you to implement your own “No Regrets” policy.
All it requires is for you to shift your focus from all the things you didn’t do “right” to all the things that you did do that are moving you towards your goals. To give yourself credit for those things. To celebrate those things. And to start each day with a fresh opportunity to do the very best you can, and to celebrate those actions.
It does take practice, but fortunately you don’t have to be perfect!
Together we can do it!
Hanna,
I guees it all comes down to how we see the glass. Half full or half empty. It is all about the perspective we choose to have.
Shakti
Our perception is EVERYTHING! Thanks for commenting, Shakti. Appreciate you!
love this! great advise, if the world learned to loosen their grip a bit on perfectionism- we would probably get more done and be happier! keep it up, great post!
Thanks, Elisa!
Hanna, this post really spoke to me…on the verge of tears reading it. The “not enough” gremlin showing it’s unpleasant head in my thoughts recently by my attachment to trying to be perfect. There is rejection in perfection…rejection of my self and my efforts to be my best self…and as I read through your list i realized how much I’ve been rejecting myself in the pursuit of perfection. Thank you for the reminder of who I am and how I’m already enough just being me.
Thanks for your awesome comments, Nicky! Love your insight that there is self-rejection in perfection. Love that this blog was a helpful reminder. What are you going to do to continue to remind yourself?
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Thanks for reblogging!
The first time I heard that saying was in o.a and I loved it, it’s so wise
Didn’t know that was one of their sayings. It is a good one! Thanks for sharing!