Love Your Way Slim

What feels better? 

Having your partner shower you with love and attention, or showering your partner with love and attention?

Most people would agree that while it is delicious to receive another’s love, it is even more exquisite to give love.  

How much love are you giving your body?

If you are like most women, you are withholding love. You are demeaning and hateful in what you say and think about your body. You are neglectful—and downright harmful—in your actions.

And in many cases, you are demanding that your body prove its love for you by defying the laws of nature.

When it cannot meet your unreasonable demands, you feel betrayed, let down, and frustrated.

How long would you stay healthy in a relationship where your partner treated you that way?

When you look at your body, how much does it physically reflect how you treat it, and what you say and think about it?

An important step in creating the body you want is recognizing that what you have going with your body is a relationship in every sense of the word. In fact, your relationship with your body is the longest—and most important—of your life. There is no reconciling from that divorce!

Many people have a negative catabolic relationship with their body. At best, they ignore it and at worst they are constantly critical, neglectful, and downright abusive in how they treat it.

The good news is your body has never stopped loving you. Every cell in your body is giving everything it’s got for you. In fact, every cell is giving it’s life for you. Your body is absolutely and completely devoted to you

It’s not your body that needs to change in this relationship. It is you.

It is you that needs to start providing some love and support to your body. It is you that needs to treat your body as you wish to be treated by your partner.

The first step is to decide that you want to show up differently in this relationship. Examine your reasons why you want to make peace with your body.

Then begin doing what you would do in any relationship to repair the damage.

You might:

  • Shift the words you use when examining, or talking to or about your body. Instead of being critical, look for things to compliment.
  • Look for all the ways your body is supporting you, instead of focusing on all the ways it’s letting you down.
  • Become more aware of how it responds to what you’re feeding it, and begin to choose more nourishing foods.
  • Pay attention to how much you move it—is it enough or too much? It will tell you what it needs if you will begin to listen.
  • Take the time for self-care. Meditation, getting a massage, taking a luxurious bath, sitting quietly with a cup of tea–all of these are great ways to tune in to what your body is trying to communicate. Listen and respond.

Trust that your body wants nothing more than to have a positive, loving relationship with you, and will knock itself out to respond to this change in relationship. 

But if the abuse has been going on for some time, be patient. While the changes will begin happening immediately, you may not see the difference for a little bit. It took time to get where you are and it will take a little time to get to where you want to be.

What would be the benefits of changing your relationship with your body? How different would you feel if you treated your body the way you want to be treated? What difference would that make to your health and well-being?

Together we can do it!

  • Are you struggling with your weight?
  • Are you worried about holiday weight gain?
  • Are you ready to get the body you really want? 

I am excited to offer 2 coaching spaces to help you love your way slim. If you are serious about transforming your mind and body, email me at hannagoss@goss-coaching.com by November 11 to schedule your complimentary breakthrough session. These powerful sessions are available on a limited basis. 

Don’t wait till Jan 2 to take inspired action. Start creating the body—and life—you want today

 

Make the First Move to Change Your Body

How’s your relationship with your body?

When you think of your body, do you feel supported, empowered, and nourished? Or do you feel betrayed, let down, or frustrated?

How would your body describe its relationship with you? Would it feel appreciated, loved, respected, and well-cared-for, or would it feel neglected, abused, and unwanted?

When you look at your body, does it physically reflect the status of your relationship?

Because what you have going with your body is a relationship in every sense of the word. Your relationship with your body is the longest—and most important—of your life. There is no reconciling from that divorce!

Many people have a negative catabolic relationship with their body. At best, they ignore it and at worst they are constantly critical, neglectful, and downright abusive in how they treat it. How long would a person stay healthy in a relationship like that? Is it any wonder it begins showing up overweight, aching, and breaking down with illness?

Who do you think started that catabolic relationship—you or your body? Unless you were born with a condition, chances are you hurled the first insult—whether a verbal assault, or less than nourishing food, or lack-of or too-extreme movement.

The good news is you have the power to create a better relationship. In fact, you have total control over the quality and type of relationship you have. It can be wonderful, loving, supportive, and fun—or not—all depending on what you do consistently from this moment forward.

But it is you that must first change for your body to show up differently. Regardless of the physical condition you’re in, you have to decide you want to reconcile, and examine your reasons why you want to call a truce to the war.

And then begin doing what you would do in any relationship to repair the damage. You might begin shifting the words you use when examining, or talking to or about your body. Instead of being critical, look for things to compliment.

Look for all the ways it’s supporting you, instead of focusing on all the ways it’s letting you down. Become more aware of what you’re feeding it, and begin to choose more nourishing foods. Pay attention to how much you move it—is it enough or too much? It will tell you what it needs if you will begin to listen.

Trust that your body wants nothing more than to have a positive anabolic relationship with you, and will knock itself out to respond to this change in relationship. But if the abuse has been going on for some time, be patient. While the changes will begin happening immediately, you may not see the difference for a little bit. It took time to get where you are and it will take a little time to get to where you want to be.

What would be the benefits of changing your relationship with your body? How different would you feel if you treated your body the way you want to be treated? What difference would that make to your health and well-being?

Together we can do it!

Can You Relate?

We’ve all heard of the body, mind, spirit connection, but what does that really mean?

It means that diet and exercise alone are not enough to create the body of your dreams. To successfully create optimal wellness, you must also pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.

It means you must have a relationship with your body.

How do you currently relate to your body? Do you love and appreciate it? Admire its strength and flexibility? Acknowledge how hard it’s working on your behalf? Consider it beautiful?

Or do you ignore it? Complain about it? Think and say mean and hurtful things about it? Do you consider your body incapable of grace, beauty, or athleticism? Think it’s impossible for you to lose weight, or feel ugly or fat?

These kinds of thoughts, feelings, and beliefs generate negative catabolic energy that is literally having a destructive effect at the cellular level. Stop a moment and think, “My body is ugly.” Is there a physical feeling associated with that, such as an uncomfortable pull in the stomach?

What physical feeling results from thinking, “My body is working hard on my behalf?” Do you feel a sense of easing up?

Because you carry your body around with you everywhere you go, it is truly one of your most important relationships.

Even a little bit of catabolic energy has a huge impact on your life. Have you ever walked around with a pebble in your shoe? How long were you able to keep going before you had to stop and remove the stone, even if it was tiny? Where you able to focus on the beauty of the day and path, or was much of your attention on the stone in your shoe? What might have you missed even being a little focused on the stone?

Catabolic thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are much like a stone in your shoe. It doesn’t take much for them to distract you from the life you are creating, the joy and opportunities that abound, and the love that surrounds you. The draining effect they have accumulates over time.

With that catabolic stone in your shoe, can you do everything that you want to do? Can you achieve what you want to achieve? Can you show up in your personal relationships the way you want to show up?

Many don’t realize they have the ability to shift their thoughts, feelings and beliefs, so they just walk around continuing to perpetuate that catabolic energy.

Maybe you feel your body betrayed you by not being strong enough, healthy enough, capable enough, or beautiful enough? Imagine what you could do with that mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual energy if you were focusing it towards Who you want to be and the life you want to create?

How differently would you approach the physical actions of eating healthy and moving your body if you believed your body was capable of being fit, strong, healthy, and lean? What difference would that make to your ability to create optimal wellness? How might that impact your life?

Together we can do it!

Photo by Simon Howden / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Wellness Tip of the Day

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Wellness Tip of the Day: One of your most important relationships is with your body. Diet and exercise are important, but so are thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.

Guest Blog–It’s An Inside Job….

I invited my coach and mentor, Jennifer Barley, to guest blog while I’m away at coach training.

So often we look to the outer things in life to fix our issues. If we have financial challenges, we look to change jobs to make more money. If we have weight issues, we join a gym. If we have relationship woes, we want to change the other person. All of these efforts are about searching outside of ourselves for the solution under the guise of being happy.

Happiness is an inside job. No amount of money, no number on the scale, and no other person will bring you true happiness. Sure, those things can make life more comfortable, they could help us reduce the negative self talk, and they can bring a sense of familiarity. However if one is truly happy then they experience things that come from the inside–peace, love, and clarity–regardless of how much money is in the bank, how our pants fit and who is in our life. If we always do what we’ve always done, we will always get what we’ve always gotten. This is not about doing — it is about our being.

In order to find happiness, we have to be willing to start exploring our thoughts, feelings and actions around our challenges. That begins with our core of “Who” we are. We all have beliefs, values, core thoughts, assumptions, and interpretations that play into our view of the world. Those beliefs can enhance our world, or detract from our world.

How do your beliefs serve you? Do they keep you safe and small? Do they protect you from disappointment? Do they protect you from vulnerability? Do they allow you to play big and share your gifts with the world? Do your core thoughts allow you to share love without limits.

Which of your beliefs keep you from moving forward?

Then the big zowie of a question comes in to play….

If you were to let go of your belief, what are you really afraid might happen?

What is the worst thing that could happen? What is the best thing that could happen? Are you willing to risk it?

How willing are you to redefine your “Who”?

The world is waiting for you–your redefined Who–to show up from the inside out.

Jennifer Barley is a Professional Certified Life Coach, public speaker, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) instructor, author and former award-winning Weight Loss Leader.

It is Jennifer’s strong belief that every person can create whatever life they choose and she partners with her clients to make it happen. She has a strong talent for motivating, inspiring and adding humor to every situation.

Jennifer works with clients one-on-one, in workshop environments, and through online tele-classes. As the KickStart Coach™ Jennifer is committed to providing the support, encouragement, accountability, and motivation that her clients need to get inspired and get in the game.

You can learn more about her at www.jenniferbarley.com and read her blog at http://blog.jenniferbarley.com