Wellness Tip of the Day: You get to decide how to react to everything that is happening around you. How can you respond a little differently today?
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Wellness Tip of the Day
Wellness Tip of the Day: When you have an instant negative reaction stop and ask, “What’s really going on here?” How can you have a different reaction in the future?
Open Your Heart to Wellness
I know what it feels like to shut my heart to someone because they are not behaving as I think they should.
Withholding love is a very common reaction when people are not living up to the standards we have set.
This could range from a lover choosing to spend time with friends instead of with you, to someone committing a terrible crime.
When someone does not live up to our or society’s rules, we feel justified in judging them as unworthy of our love. This is one way that we “punish” them.
But shutting our hearts down—even for the best of reasons—does not actually punish the other person as we think it does—and it is far more detrimental to us.
The catabolic reactions are felt in our bodies, not theirs. These are the draining and destructive body processes—such as the release of stress hormones—that actually eat away at our cells.
This is why practicing forgiveness and unconditional love is so powerful. By allowing ourselves to give love—no matter what—we are providing ourselves with constructive, anabolic energy that actually heals us from the inside out.
Withholding love is something we learned—it is not our natural way of being. Look at the love and joy that flows through little children. But almost from day one, we begin giving children the lesson that if they behave in a certain way, they will make us happy and we will then love them. It doesn’t take long for children to learn that control is a part of love.
Begin to notice when you are shutting your heart down. Pay attention to how uncomfortable that feels. Recognize that it’s up to you to change your reaction—it is not up to the other person to change their behavior.
Where people often get stuck is feeling like loving someone anyway is the same as condoning that awful behavior. This is where it is helpful to remember that the Universe (God, Higher Power, All-That-Is–whatever works for you), is involved in that other person’s life, too, and that each of you is receiving guidance. Your job is to pay attention to your reactions and move towards the bigger part of you. Your guidance will always lead you to the best outcome for you.
Where in your life are you withholding love? What can you do today to open that door in your heart just a little bit? Notice how much better that feels.
Together we can do it!
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Wellness Tip of the Day
Wellness Tip of the Day: You get to decide how to react to everything that is happening around you. Are you going to try to respond a little differently today?