Three Tips for Living Lean

When a woman makes the decision to lose weight, often she wants the change effective immediately.

It’s the mindset of, “I want to be a size 4 and I want it today.”

This impatience is really being focused on the fact that you don’t have what you want, which means you are fighting the forces of the Universe and will struggle to lose weight.

What does it really matter if it takes a little time to achieve your goal? It’s the pain factor, right?

It’s looking in the mirror everyday and suffering from body shame. It’s feeling deprived as you turn down that piece of chocolate cake while everybody else digs in. It’s dreading the dressing room and trying on 50 swimsuits to find one that you might be willing to wear in public. It’s the risk of having your partner see you as unsex-worthy because of your sagging stomach.

You want to just wave a magic wand and make it all go away.

These thoughts are all symptoms of what has caused you to gain weight in the first place. At their heart is the fear of judgment and a lack of self-love. This is why so many diets and exercise programs fail. For lasting results, you have to change your core thoughts and beliefs along with eating healthy foods and moving your body.

Here are three tips to let go of the thoughts that keep you from living lean.

  • Focus on a body part you can appreciate. How often do you look in the mirror and criticize your stomach, butt, or thighs? When you catch yourself doing this, shift your attention to something you can compliment. Maybe it’s your hair, your ankles, or your fingernails. Just find something you can consistently shift your focus to and praise.
  • Make peace with the process. You didn’t gain the weight overnight, and you won’t lose it overnight. Recognize that life is meant to be lived and this includes living the experience of losing weight. Choose an eating and exercise program that you actually enjoy and that gives you some flexibility.
  • Celebrate your daily progress. Did you eat on plan today? Woo hoo! Did you choose an apple over pie? Awesome! Did you walk five minutes longer than the day before? Fabulous! Focus on all the things you are doing right and ignore the rest.

What can you do today to begin shifting from wanting immediate results to thrilling in moving towards your dream?

Together we can do it!

You’re Amazing! Perfect! Just the Way You Are

One of the gifts I get from All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) is waking up with a song playing in my head that has a message that feels relevant to some element of my life.

This morning was one of those mornings. As I opened my eyes, I heard the refrain from a Bruno Mars’ song, “You’re amazing just the way you are.”

And this felt like a joyful message not just for me, but for you.

Because this is how God sees every single one of us. Each person is unique, beautiful, and perfect just as they are.

I know, I know. This may be hard to wrap your mind around. But what would be different about your life if you did let yourself believe in your worthiness just a little bit more?

How would it feel to compliment your body instead of criticize it?

How would it feel to believe you can do something—and offer yourself encouragement—instead of tearing every effort apart?

How would it feel to praise yourself as a beloved child of the Universe, instead of holding on to the false belief that you aren’t worthy?

Because no matter your sex, your size, your color, your creed—no matter what—you are amazing, just the way you are.

What can you do to let yourself believe this a little bit more today than you did yesterday? How can you allow yourself to be more of the version of you that Source sees? How would that change how you live your life?

Together we can do it!


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Wellness Tip of the Day


Wellness Tip of the Day: Compliment, encourage, and praise yourself. Look for the things you do well, and let go of the rest. Allow yourself to Be the best you.

It’s OK to Love Yourself

It used to be that I was so busy feeling unlovable that I couldn’t have named anything about myself that was special—much less have appreciated those characteristics.

What a painful place I existed in most of the time. In my heart I knew that I was supposed to be happy, but I kept thinking the world had to change and everything had to align perfectly before I could find happiness.

I am so grateful that I discovered that I held the key to happiness all along. That key was choosing to be happy now regardless of the circumstances. To let go of the expectation that anyone or anything had to change to make me happy. To begin appreciating my life as it was—and to begin looking at those things about myself that I could appreciate.

The more clearly I could visualize me at my best—the me I wanted to become—the more I was actually able to show up as that person. And the more I could stop beating myself up when I wasn’t the best version of me, the quicker I was able to return to that happier place.

The assignment for day 18 of my Gratitude Challenge is to write about all the things that make me lovable, and to appreciate my personal style, talents, and charm.

Interestingly, while I can do this pretty easily in the privacy of my own journal, sharing this publically is bringing out that old gremlin that feels like there’s something wrong with self-love—meaning that you fabulous readers might judge me for having a “big head” or being egotistical.

I love that I know that old fear is false and that this exercise is helping me expand and evolve as a person. Even if someone does judge me, I know that self-love is necessary to unconditionally love others, and that this is the path to creating the life of my dreams.

One of the things that makes me lovable is that I am loving. I strive to look for things to appreciate about other people—and tell them what makes them shine. I am self-aware enough that I typically know when I’m not showing up as the best possible me, and if I can’t shift in the moment, I will come back to it later and figure out how to shift that energy.

Maintaining my connection to Source (God, the Universe, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) is my primary intention. I am a good listener and am truly interested in what others have to say. My intuition is active and gives me great insights into what people aren’t saying.

When I find something really amusing, I cackle and snort, which usually makes me laugh even harder. I have simple, but elegant taste for how I dress and present myself. I’m a good writer, and I love it most when my words inspire someone else.

Beauty is important to me, and creating beautiful spaces and appreciating beautiful places, people, and things gives me delight. My core values include freedom, integrity, and joy. I have an awesome ability to see the connections in disparate-seeming information and experiences.

It is always my intention to be a vibrant and beneficial uplifter to myself and others. I am capable, confident, energetic, powerful, and engaged. I am becoming more and more flexible and am learning to more easily go with the flow. One of my greatest gifts is my unshakable knowing that wellbeing is the dominate basis of All-That-Is.

While it may seem odd–or even wrong–to sing your own praises, if you think about the fact that Source loves and adores you exactly as you are, than all you are doing is agreeing with All-That-Is. You are praising what your Higher Coach praises. By unconditionally loving yourself, you are opening your heart to unconditionally loving others.

Try it today. Let go of the need to be perfect or self-critical, and look for those things that make you lovable. Acknowledge how good it feels, and then share that love with another.

Together we can do it!