Wellness Tip of the Day: Every situation is an opportunity to learn, grow, and live life to the fullest. Judging yourself gets in the way of positive change.
As you begin practicing this, it’s easy to see how true it is.
While it can be challenging at first, when you stop yourself from negatively reacting to something and shift your mental focus from the problem to how you can use the situation to learn and grow, your mind shifts in the direction you are pointing it and provides the things you seek.
To make the shift, you may have to let go of all the things that “could” go wrong and ask yourself how the situation might actually be helpful—for you and others—how you might be able to see things differently, and how you can trust that things are unfolding just as they should.
In other words, you rationalize your way out of fear or anger. It’s a fabulous tool for shifting from negative, catabolic energy where you are at the effect of people, situations, thoughts, emotions, and events, to begin looking for and seeing the solutions and potential.
As you practice releasing the catabolic energy by moving away from your well-rehearsed and automatic reactions, you connect with higher levels of positive anabolic energy that truly help you see not only the opportunities in every situation, but how the solutions can benefit each person involved.
It is the Yin/Yang of the Universe—for every problem there is an equal and proportionate solution. The opportunity and solution are always there, but you must first raise your gaze from the memorizing specter of the train-wreck that is the problem, and look for the opportunities.
As you practice making this mental shift you begin creating new reactions to problems so that one day, you bypass the rationalization step and your automatic response is to see all the opportunities and solutions. You no longer have to dip down into the catabolic energy and then turn your focus towards digging your way out of the morass. That frees up mental and physical energy that you can use to help create the life of your dreams.
What can you do to begin—or to practice—looking for the opportunity in every situation? What benefits might there be in experiencing more positive anabolic energy? What difference would that make to your life?
Together we can do it!
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Yesterday, I made a long list of things that I want to achieve in 2012. Chances are, you may have made a resolution or two, as well.
Right now, you may be fired up to get to the gym, or to start that new diet, or to begin the process for whatever it is you have decided to change.
If so, woo hoo! Deciding to change is a huge step. Let’s harness that positive energy you are feeling right now and keep it going!
One way to do that is to look at your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs and see if they are supporting your new actions, or if they will soon be sending your positive intentions off the road and into the bushes.
For instance, how sustainable will your commitment to workout be if you are thinking thoughts like:
- “I hate exercise.”
- “I hate to sweat.
- “I have to work out perfectly everyday or there’s no sense in doing it.”
- “Exercise is no fun.”
- “I am hating every moment of this.
Those kinds of thoughts will drive your exercise plan right off the road and into a tree!
How do they make you feel? How much do they fuel your belief that you can meet your goal versus you can’t? What direction are they pointing you in?
Chances are if you’re thinking thoughts like these, you aren’t going to be able to jump right away to the idea that, “exercise is fun and you love it.” How honest does that feel? So begin by easing up on your thoughts just a little bit.
- “This may be hard, but I really want to meet my goal.”
- “I know when I get this done I’m going to feel better.”
- “I can do anything for 10 minutes.”
- “I don’t have to be perfect, but I do need to be consistent.”
- “As I build up my endurance with this, I’ll be able to try new activities, and maybe I’ll find one that I really enjoy.”
- “Each small step I’m taking is moving me closer to my goal.”
- “I don’t have to love it to do it.”
- “My desire to reach my goal is bigger then how I feel about exercise.”
- “Once I get this done, I don’t have to think about it again today.”
- “I want to do this because I want to be healthy, fit, and lean.”
Easing up a little on your thoughts feels better and fuels your positive beliefs that you can do something.
Aligning your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs to support your actions is like making sure your car is in drive, you have a solid hold on the steering wheel, and you have plenty of gas in the tank as you ease down on the gas pedal.
What can you do to notice if your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are moving you where you want to go? If they aren’t, what can you do to begin to change them?
Together we can do it!