Do You Believe That’s Possible?

On this day of your life, I believe God wants you to know that how bad things may look right now means nothing. It’s how good you know they can look with God’s help that counts.

Neale Donald Walsch

Are you focused on the problem or are you focused on expanding your belief and knowing that everything is always working out for you?

If you said, “Yes, but” or wanted to explain to me how things really aren’t working out for you, then you’re focused on the problem. And you are getting more of what you’re focused on.

Achieving anything first begins with the belief that it is possible. If you don’t believe it, how hard are you going to work? How much are you willing to try before you give up? How much will you sabotage your own efforts to prove yourself right?

One of the most famous examples of this is Thomas Edison. It would take him almost two years of failed attempts, new discoveries and prototypes before he would find success in creating the carbon filament light bulb.

After Edison’s seven-hundredth unsuccessful attempt, he was asked by a New York Times reporter, “How does it feel to have failed 700 times?”

He responded, “I have not failed 700 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 700 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.” It is said he tried over 6,000 different carbonized plant fibers looking for a carbon filament for his light bulb.

Do you think he would have continued undaunted if he didn’t believe that he would ultimately find the solution that would work?

How can you begin stretching your beliefs to accept that wellness and wellbeing—or the essence of whatever it is that you want—are possible?

There are many, many ways, but here are a few:

  • Disregard what others have told you. Unless it is a Universal Truth, meaning it is true no matter who, no matter where, no matter how, then it does not have to be true for you.
  • Stop struggling. Relax and just accept that where you are is just where you are in the journey. Things are shifting and changing, even if you can’t see it.
  • Expect a different outcome. Just because you’ve tried something in the past doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try again. Analyze what didn’t work before and try again with the new information.
  • Have a little faith. Trust that All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) not only has the power to make the planet rotate so perfectly that we can predict when the sun will rise and set and the pattern of stars across the night sky, but also can bring about the solution that is best for everyone involved.

What can you do to begin stretching your beliefs to accept that what you want is possible? What happens to your actions when you begin to believe and then know? How much more fun is the journey to where you want to go?

Together we can do it!

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What Are You Afraid Of?

“Every living thing—animal, human, or plant—experiences that which is called death, with no exception. Spirit, which is who-we-really-are, is Eternal. So what death must be is but a changing of the perspective of that Eternal Spirit. If you are standing in your physical body and consciously connected to that Spirit, then you are Eternal in nature and you need never fear any “endedness,” because, from that perspective, there is none. (You will never cease to be, for you are Eternal Consciousness.)”

Abraham as interpreted by Esther Hicks

“What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”

Robert H. Schuller

In Saturday’s blog, I wrote about the number one regret that people who were dying reported to Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. That regret? The wish that they’d had the courage to live life true to themselves and not the life others expected of them.

The biggest reason people don’t live true to themselves? Fear. Fear of failure, fear of what others will think, fear that they are less than Who they truly are.

As someone who spent a lot of my life buckled under the weight of that fear, I encourage you with all my being to throw it off.

That fear is a blindfold pulled over our collective eyes. It is not Truth.

The Truth is it is impossible to fail, because there can be no failure where there is learning and growth. And every experience is valuable.

The Truth is what others think does not matter. They do not—and cannot—know your heart. You have to search within to find that, and you are the only one who can know your heart fully.

The Truth is you cannot fail because your Spirit is Eternal. The point of life is living. There is no way to get it wrong.

Live life true to yourself.” This is the wisdom passed on to you by those who wished they had done things differently.

It means letting go of false beliefs about Who you are, what you are capable of, and what you deserve.

It means letting go of fear that does not serve you.

It means listening to your own heart.

It means having faith in your eternal nature.

Every moment of every day you are creating your life. Each decision either holds you in place or moves you towards the person you want to become—the person you are meant to be.

What is one small thing you can you do today to live life true to yourself? How does that make you feel? How much closer are you to being the person you want to become?

Together we can do it!

Winning the Game of Life

Often, when we are excited about an idea, goal, or project, we expect the way forward to open easily before us. We feel so good that surly people will want to be cooperative, events will play in our favor, and we will sashay into the winners circle instantly without even breaking a sweat!

But is the joy of an easy win really all that satisfying? How many times do you play a game that’s too easy to play and win? For instance, how long did you want to play Tic Tac Toe (also called noughts and crosses in some parts) after you discovered that putting an X in the center almost always guarantees a win or draw?

What if our winning the game of life was so certain that to make it interesting, we voluntarily agreed to lose that knowledge so playing would become an act of faith? And what if our intention was to face limitations and obstacles so that the game would be challenging, and thus more fun?

Don’t poker players up the ante, thus upping the risk? Don’t golf and tennis players seek out better players to improve their game?

Why would the game of life be any different?

It can feel not so fun, however, when we lose sight of our unlimited potential, and so believe the falsehoods perpetuated by our inner Gremlin who tells us we’re not good enough and a society focused on fear that we buy-in to our powerlessness, lack, and limitations. We see problems and challenges as blocks we are powerless to navigate instead of opportunities to learn, grow, and evolve.

As a result, we can become depressed and overwhelmed instead of feeling passionate about playing the game.

What if the pain of being powerless was actually our Higher Coach letting us know that our thoughts and beliefs about how we’re playing the game aren’t accurate? And that all we have to do to engage in the game and have fun again is to align our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs with our actions?

Would you want to begin examining your thoughts and strive to focus on what feels good, and thus head where your Higher Coach is directing? Would you work to align your choices and actions with your inner values so that you were guaranteed of making decisions that move you towards who you truly are? Would you begin looking at every problem as an opportunity to engage rather than withdraw?

How would making those changes feel? What direction do you think that means your Higher Coach is encouraging you to go?

Your potential is unlimited. Use the blocks you encounter as opportunities to make the game of life more fun and interesting.

Together we can do it!

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Keep Going in the Right Direction

A lot of my clients feel like they have to figure out exactly where a problem started. They want to analyze and dwell on it and determine how it’s impacted them every step along the way.

I totally get this, as I once felt that need. And it can be helpful to make a new choice when you understand the one you have been consistently making.

But it’s often not necessary.

If you get lost driving in a new town but you’re able to get pointed back in the right direction, how helpful is it to turn around and look for the exact moment where you made the decision that led to a wrong turn? Won’t you get to your destination faster if you just keep going in the right direction?

In situations where healing is not the primary agenda (which is where a qualified therapist is most needed), what seems to be at the heart of this desire is a lack of confidence that they’re moving in the right direction, and a fear of meeting their goals.

When you think about the underlying principle that Energy Attracts Like Energy (also known at the Law of Attraction), being overly focused on where you are—or where you have been—just keeps summoning similar experiences, situations, and people so that your results never seem to change. This can lead to frustration, disillusionment, and even giving up on achieving your goal.

It is far more helpful to set your focus on who you want to be and the life you want to create now. Not with yearning, but with confidence and determination.

But how do you bridge that gap between the person you have been and having the confidence that you are creating the person you want to be?

This is the real work, isn’t it? It’s testing your footing by taking baby steps, and doing what you can do. It’s looking at the examples of others who have already been successful. It’s staying focused on all the reason you do want to make the change and what you want the end result to be. It’s ignoring your fearful gremlin that tries to convince you that the safety of right now is where you want to stay. It’s cutting away old inaccurate thought processes and beliefs that limit your progress, and celebrating each tiny step that leads you in the right direction.

And this is where faith comes in. It’s letting yourself believe that the Universe (God, Source, All-That-Is, Higher Power—whatever works for you) is on your side, regardless of your current experience. It’s a willingness to let yourself be optimistic and to feel good now, even when your situation hasn’t changed. It’s accepting what you have and where you are, without letting go of your goals. It’s an unshakable belief that what you want is absolutely and completely yours and on its way to you, and letting go of any evidence to the contrary. It’s ignoring naysayers, and being brave enough to think and believe something different from the crowd. It’s looking inside for the answers and embracing your own internal light.

In my own journey, I’m laser focused on optimal wellness. I have an unshakable knowing that it is mine, and my surgery next week is just an action step taking me closer to that reality. I am focused on and determined to do those things that are within my control, such as eating healthy foods and exercising. And I’m feeling excited about this new adventure I am embarking on.

What can you do to focus more on creating the person that you want to be, rather than dwelling on the person you have been?

Together we can do it!