Wellness Tip of the Day: View life events as beneficial. Use experiences as your gauge of how well you are lining up your thoughts and beliefs with your desires.
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Don’t You Love That?
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As they get older, people tend to find a routine that is comfortable. They’ve identified what they like and what they don’t, and primarily stick with the ideas, beliefs, people, and experiences they know and enjoy. They begin to draw a boundary around themselves and automatically reject anything new.
This is when it’s easy to get caught up in living a comfortable life and forget Who you really are. You can begin living life on autopilot.
But the whole point of life is to expand and grow. It’s setting your sights on something new and using the power of your desire to literally pull Source Energy to and through you to create a brand new thought, perspective, or experience that is unique to you. And as you get your bearings in this new place, you can then look around for something new to ignite a desire within you.
That feeling of exhilaration is literally life-force! It’s the constructive anabolic-energy that helps our bodies heal, rebuild, and flow with physical energy.
This doesn’t mean that you need to go jump out of an airplane or do something extreme, unless that is what you want to do. It’s just as effective—and for most people, actually more so—to just reach for something new that feels good.
While it can feel exhilarating to jump for something that scares you silly, there is still forward momentum in continually reaching for what you enjoy. The key is just to reach.
Be Curious
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
Albert Einstein
One way to reach is to be genuinely curious about life. My Step-Dad is one of the most curious people I know, and can sometimes drive me crazy asking questions that I have no answers to, but I also love how energetic, creative, and mentally agile he is. Well into his 70s, he’s also incredibly healthy, and doesn’t take a single prescription drug.
Being curious opens you up to ideas, thoughts, and creativity. It is a continual voyage of discovery about life, how things work, and how they can be improved. It can also help you find new things that you love.
Practice Appreciation
Actively appreciating what you do have actually opens you up to discovering new things to appreciate.
There are lots of ways to practice appreciation—write down lists of things you appreciate every day, or as you’re going to sleep, mentally visualize all the events of your day that you appreciate. It’s incredibly powerful to focus on what you appreciate before you even get out of bed in the morning.
Focus on What You Love
We’ve all heard the guidance, “Follow your bliss.” Focusing on and doing things that you love helps open you up to new things.
For me, this was exemplified recently on Pinterest, a virtual pinboard where you can find, organize, and share things that you love. I discovered that I love cars—or more precisely, beautiful pictures of beautiful cars.
As someone who can barely tell a Honda from a Toyota, I was startled to discover my heart a-flutter at just the sheer beauty of a Mercedes Silver Arrow. So I created a board called, “Who Knew I Liked Cars?”
I don’t anticipate that my identification of cars on the road will change, but it was fun to discover that I appreciate something I’ve dismissed my whole life. I already know it will give my Step-Father and me something new to appreciate together.
Zip lining for the first time in Jamaica.
Other ways to reach are to visit new places, try new experiences (I recently tried Zip Lining and loved it!), or talk to new people, even if it’s just standing in the checkout line in the grocery store.
I would love to hear some of the ways that you reach and seek out new things, people, and experiences to enjoy. How does this enhance your life and help you be the best possible version of you?
Together we can do it!
Wellness Tip of the Day
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Wellness Tip of the Day: Part of being the best possible version of you is doing things you love, and seeking out new things, people, and experiences to enjoy.
What Path Are You On?
Nobody experiences or sees the world exactly the way that you do. Because every moment of life is new and ever-changing, all of the individual perspectives in the world are constantly changing and being shaped. The person you are in this moment will be slightly different in the next as you take in these words and the environment around you.
Not only are you influenced by outside experiences, but in this moment you can also consciously choose your perspective, thought, and reaction.
The uniqueness of each individual and their journey is one of my favorite things to ponder. But what does it really mean for our day-to-day lives?
One of the things it can do is help you recognize and accept your innate value. You have value because your experiences and how you see the world are slightly different from anyone else on the planet. You add to the greater whole.
But that’s still pretty esoteric. What does it really mean?
It means that you matter. It means that the greatest gift you can give the world is to be the absolute best possible version of you.
So often, people get caught up in their lives and doing and caring for others that they forget Who they are. They don’t take time to think about what makes them tick? What are their values? What do they enjoy? What’s important to them? How do they want to spend their time? Who do they want to spend time with?
Instead of consciously choosing your path, you may be buffeted along in the hubbub of day-to-day life until you wake up one day and realize you don’t like where you are and that you no longer know the answers to those questions. It’s typically not a pleasant day.
You can also lose sight of Who you are by constantly comparing yourself to other people. If gazing over at someone else’s experience is inspiring, that’s great! Keep doing it. But more often than not, people use the life of another to judge or criticize themselves, their contributions and progress, and their value. You are never going to be able to authentically live another’s life, and trying to do so never feels good.
Other than being somewhat unpleasant, neither of these paths is “bad” or “wrong.” They will still help you create the irreplaceable you, and ultimately taking the scenic route can be very fulfilling.
It’s just that focusing on being the best possible version of you throughout your journey can be a lot more fun and robust. It like catching a wave and riding it into shore versus paddling the whole way.
What does being the best possible version of you mean? Who is that person? What small step can you take today towards being that person?
Together we can do it!
What Do You Value?
What are your core values? Do you live your life by them? Do you base your decisions on them? Do they provide the direction for your life? Do you show up every day with the intention of expressing them?
For most people the answer is not only “No,” but they’ve never even thought about it. While I have always strived to be a “good” person, it wasn’t until recently that I really evaluated which values are at the center of who I am.
My core values are spirituality, integrity, joy, connecting to others, creativity, and freedom. Yours are likely different, and are based on your life experiences and understanding. No one’s core values should be judged as “right” or “wrong.” They are part of what makes us unique and help create our individual perspective. And our individuality is a very good thing!
Identifying your core values increases your mindfulness. Evaluating them can help you determine what value you were expressing during a time when life was really good, and can provide clarity to past upsetting experiences when you understand what value was being challenged. And you can pinpoint where you are compromising your values, and why.
Because integrity is prominent in my core values, yesterday I made lists of where I am in integrity with myself and where I’m not.
What I can celebrate was that the first list was way longer than the second. But the list of where I am not living in integrity with myself was enlightening. As I contemplated it, one of the things I noticed was that seemingly disparate areas were actually related. For instance, I uncovered a lingering fear about money that I can now tie back to stress eating. Aha!
Just having that awareness has brought me incredible clarity and has released some catabolic or negative energy for which I couldn’t otherwise figure out the cause.
When we guide our lives by the bigger picture of who we are, the navigation gets a whole lot easier.
What are the values and principles you live by? Who are you at your core? How could identifying those specifics change your life?
Together we can do it!
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