This summer, one of my clients was giving herself a hard time because a week after moving to a new state and a few days after starting a new job, she wasn’t relaxed. In fact, she was downright stressed.
I call this the Super Woman Syndrome. This is the expectation that you can—and have to!—do everything while always being happy and relaxed.
How reasonable is that? Particularly if you are going through some pretty significant life changes?
Super Woman Syndrome seems to turn into an epidemic during the holidays.
All the shopping, decorating, socializing, cooking, sending out holiday cards—the list goes on and on. Or you may be trying to make everything perfect—for yourself or for others.
It can leave you wiped out, particularly if you feel like you have to do it all yourself.
During the holidays, exercise and sleep—those good solutions for stress and fatigue—may take a back seat to chores and errands.
Just to be totally open and authentic with you fabulous readers, I am experiencing Super Woman Syndrome right now, as well.
Oh, I have the holidays in hand, but my business is ramping up this week with the launch of my new website, LoveYourWaySlim.com, and a tele-class I’m giving for Impact ADHD, both happening on Thursday, as well as the January 7 launch of a new coaching program and the planning of a Love Your Way Slim Beach-side Retreat in April.
I am feeling the stress and my body is letting me know that my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are not supporting me as I step into this new level of business activity.
My body is reminding me to ramp up my own self-care.
So I thought this was an opportune time to remind myself–and share with you–some tips to help relieve stress and have more fun.
- Ease up on yourself, particularly in the moment. Notice your reaction, but let go of the self-judgment as much as possible. Beating yourself up for your reaction—to any situation—is just adding negative fuel to the catabolic fire. It makes you feel worse and will prolong the stress.
- Give yourself a little perspective. How much of your day do you feel stressed? Is it 100 percent of the time or were there just some significant moments of overwhelm that colored your perception of your day? Start paying attention to how many good moments you are having. Begin to track how much of the time things are going well, you are making progress, you are coping, you are feeling relief, satisfaction, gratitude, and even joy. You might be surprised that there are more of those positive anabolic moments than you thought.
- Give yourself a break. Being is just as important as doing. Take a moment to slow down. Think about how important a task is before you make yourself do it when you are exhausted and really need a break. Will an unswept floor really crash your day tomorrow? Really?
It’s time to get Super Woman out of the way so that you can get the body–and life–that you want.
You are more than just this physical body going through the motions. Letting yourself relax and have some fun—and shifting your attitude so that you are having more fun doing what you are doing—will actually boost your energy level.
This will help you maintain your wellness, get more done with much less stress, and show up more as the person you want to be.
Together we can do it!
My blog is moving! On Thursday, I will be shifting my blog to my new website LoveYourWaySlim.com. For the next month, I will post both here and there. To keep following my posts after January 15, you will need to follow my new blog. I look forward to continuing the journey with you!