Wellness Tip of the Day: Reach out to someone and offer unconditional support and encouragement—even love. The result is you both feel better.
One of the gifts I get from All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) is waking up with a song playing in my head that has a message that feels relevant to some element of my life.
This morning was one of those mornings. As I opened my eyes, I heard the refrain from a Bruno Mars’ song, “You’re amazing just the way you are.”
And this felt like a joyful message not just for me, but for you.
Because this is how God sees every single one of us. Each person is unique, beautiful, and perfect just as they are.
I know, I know. This may be hard to wrap your mind around. But what would be different about your life if you did let yourself believe in your worthiness just a little bit more?
How would it feel to believe you can do something—and offer yourself encouragement—instead of tearing every effort apart?
How would it feel to praise yourself as a beloved child of the Universe, instead of holding on to the false belief that you aren’t worthy?
Because no matter your sex, your size, your color, your creed—no matter what—you are amazing, just the way you are.
What can you do to let yourself believe this a little bit more today than you did yesterday? How can you allow yourself to be more of the version of you that Source sees? How would that change how you live your life?
Together we can do it!
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While I’m away at coach training for a few days, I’m running a few of my favorite blogs that you may have missed.
An old boss of mine had a sign on his door that read, “The floggings will continue until morale improves.”
It was a joke, of course. But how often do we try to motivate ourselves with the whip of internal insults, slurs, and condemnations?
Does telling yourself that you’re “ugly, fat, stupid, and lazy,” really make you want to get up and do your workout, or forgo the potato chips?
If spoken aloud, many people’s internal dialogues might be deemed verbal abuse. Sometimes this abuse can go on practically nonstop, every day. What do you think this does to that person’s self-esteem and belief that they can achieve their goals?
Pushing through this line of thinking to create action takes incredible energy and strength, much like rolling a boulder up a hill. And while progress can be made, without changing our underlying thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, one moment of mental fatigue or flagging self-discipline may result in our watching that boulder roll back down the hill, and our not only regaining all the weight we lost, but then some.
Changing our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs about ourselves, what we want, and our ability to achieve it helps break us out of this cycle of self-punishment. It creates a boost of momentum that makes our push towards wellness a lot more fun and sustainable.
A general rule of thumb is, “If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, it’s not appropriate to say to yourself.”
Begin treating yourself with the respect you deserve. Focus on all the reasons you do want to move your body and eat healthy foods. Focus on all the things you are doing to move yourself forward. Speak to yourself with kindness and encouragement, and celebrate each small sign of progress.
By doing the internal work along with the external work, you can achieve the life of your dreams.
Together we can do it!
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You have set the goal and intention to reduce your weight and improve your health so that you can be the best parent, partner, and person you can be.
What feels better—to get up and do the workout, or to stay in bed?
While you may assume that staying in the warm and comfy bed feels better—does it really? Can you honestly say you don’t’ feel discord, both in that moment and later when you get up? How do you feel about yourself throughout the day when you think about that missed workout?
Now if you were truly at peace and it felt good to stay in bed, you probably needed the sleep. But if you listen to your heart, you can always feel if your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions are in alignment—even if you are taking an action that on the surface seems like it would feel way harder.
This is true whether you are reducing your weight, improving your life, or standing up for something that you believe in. Your emotions are your direction, gauge, guidance, indicator, litmus test letting you know if you are moving towards who you are meant to be, or are taking a detour.
My Mother taught me this from her example. In 1957, she was a student at Little Rock
Central High School when it was first integrated by nine African-American students. She did what she felt was right. Simple things, liking sharing her desk and math text book with one of the incoming students on their first day. Smiling and offering encouragement throughout the year.
And for this, she was spat on, harassed, and sent threatening notes on almost a daily basis. The other white students made her last year of high school a living hell. And yet she did not waver.
To this day, I don’t think she feels better about anything else she has done in life. If anything, her regret is that she didn’t do more.
But clearly she did enough. During one of the anniversaries of the integration, Oprah Winfrey asked the Little Rock Nine, as the students came to be known, if any white students had helped. My mother was the only one they remembered. Oprah flew my mother out to her studios and reunited her with the student with whom she had shared her book, and he let her know how very important her smile across a room had been.
Doing what feels good, what feels right, what feels like it is in alignment with who you are, what you value, what you believe, and who you want to be may be damn hard. But the reward will always be absolutely worth it.
Doing what feels good does not necessarily mean doing what is easy. Nothing feels better than doing the work to meet your goals, or facing the challenge.
Together we can do it!
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The night before my surgery last week, I received a message from Sparky Laurie that she had nominated my blog for the Liebster Award.
Liebster is an award given to blogs that have less than 200 followers and deserve more recognition and encouragement. While I was thrilled—and immediately told Sparky Laurie so—it’s taken me a little time to pull together the requirements for this wonderful gift.
Here are some guidelines in giving or receiving the award:
- Thank your Liebster Blog Award presenter on your blog.
- Link back to the blogger who awarded you.
- Copy & Paste the award to your blog.
- Nominate 5 blogs to receive the award.
- Inform them of their nomination by leaving a comment on their blog.
And I truly love her blog. Her gift is finding mystery in the mundane, and her writing shows we can never underestimate the power of the small things in life.
There are so many bloggers deserving of this award. Since I was recently fortunate enough to receive the Versatile Blogger Award, I’ve made the decision to nominate difference blog sites in order to spread the love.
These are all bloggers that I follow and read regularly, and who have touched and supported me. In no particular order of preference, I present to you the five bloggers (though I’m not sure if all of them have less than 200 followers ) who I believe deserve this recognition:
- Kewsmith, a wonderful writer who shares her journey as an empty nester with honesty and humor. http://randomreasoning.net/
- Visionkeeper, who is trying to create a better world by inspiring individuals to make internal changes. http://oneworldrising.wordpress.com
- Will Of Heart, who shares poems, short stories, and thoughts to inspire, and add color and spice to life. http://willofheart.wordpress.com/the-journey-from-the-heart/
- The Tale of My Heart, who shares light, love, and beauty through poems, music and writing. http://justsimplyinlove.wordpress.com/home/
- Iamforchange, a man tapped into the power of his heart who honestly shares his journey towards being his best self. http://iamforchange.wordpress.com/
There are so many more I could have nominated. It was incredibly hard to limit this list to five. I hope you will take the time check out these blogs, and if you are looking for other wonderful blogs, please check out the people commenting on mine—and other’s—sites. You might find yourself surprised, inspired, motivated, and thoughtful as a result of what you read.
Now I’m off to inform the lucky winners.
Together we can do it!
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