Love Yourself to Health

While I’m away at coach training for a few days, I’m running a few of my favorite blogs that you may have missed.

Do you love your body? Do you love the food that you eat? Do you love the exercise that you’re doing, and the feeling of moving your body? Do you love to sweat?

What emotions did you feel when you read those questions? Did they bring up strong positive or negative reactions? Since our bodies and our lives are a reflection of our predominate thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, does your emotional reaction match the experience that you’re having with your body right now?

I used to hate my body and spent much of my time feeling horrible about how I looked. I hated exercise. I was a picky eater and I never appreciated or truly enjoyed what I was eating in the moment. Is it any wonder that I struggled with a weight problem my entire life and was a sickly kid? My body was emotionally and physically abused—by me!

It wasn’t until I truly understood that we are what we think, feel, and believe that I began to change my thoughts about my body. I started with gratitude, finally appreciating how hard my body was working for me despite how I fed it poor-quality food, didn’t move much, and was incredibly harsh in my criticism. It really was a miracle that my body was as healthy as it was.

I began to focus on consciously appreciating and enjoying the food I ate. I focused more on why I wanted to eat right and exercise than on all the reasons I didn’t. Over time, eating healthy food and exercising began to be something I enjoyed.

The more I began shifting my thoughts and feelings to what I wanted, the easier it became to do those things that would move me to towards who I wanted to be and the life I wanted to live.

Today, I love and appreciate my body. I love being strong, fit, and lean. I love being active. I love eating mostly healthy foods and how good I feel as a result. And I love to really get after a workout and sweat.

Pay attention to how you feel about your body, diet, exercise—really, your life. How much are you loving or hating it? How can you shift your thoughts and emotions towards feeling just a little bit better?

Do that, and it won’t be long until you are exactly where you want to be.

Together we can do it!


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Time for Self-Respect

While I’m away at coach training for a few days, I’m running a few of my favorite blogs that you may have missed.

An old boss of mine had a sign on his door that read, “The floggings will continue until morale improves.”

It was a joke, of course. But how often do we try to motivate ourselves with the whip of internal insults, slurs, and condemnations?

Does telling yourself that you’re “ugly, fat, stupid, and lazy,” really make you want to get up and do your workout, or forgo the potato chips?

If spoken aloud, many people’s internal dialogues might be deemed verbal abuse. Sometimes this abuse can go on practically nonstop, every day. What do you think this does to that person’s self-esteem and belief that they can achieve their goals?

Pushing through this line of thinking to create action takes incredible energy and strength, much like rolling a boulder up a hill. And while progress can be made, without changing our underlying thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, one moment of mental fatigue or flagging self-discipline may result in our watching that boulder roll back down the hill, and our not only regaining all the weight we lost, but then some.

Changing our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs about ourselves, what we want, and our ability to achieve it helps break us out of this cycle of self-punishment. It creates a boost of momentum that makes our push towards wellness a lot more fun and sustainable.

A general rule of thumb is, “If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, it’s not appropriate to say to yourself.”

Begin treating yourself with the respect you deserve. Focus on all the reasons you do want to move your body and eat healthy foods. Focus on all the things you are doing to move yourself forward. Speak to yourself with kindness and encouragement, and celebrate each small sign of progress.

By doing the internal work along with the external work, you can achieve the life of your dreams.

Together we can do it!

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Do What Feels Good

You have set the goal and intention to reduce your weight and improve your health so that you can be the best parent, partner, and person you can be.

What feels better—to get up and do the workout, or to stay in bed?

While you may assume that staying in the warm and comfy bed feels better—does it really? Can you honestly say you don’t’ feel discord, both in that moment and later when you get up? How do you feel about yourself throughout the day when you think about that missed workout?

How did you feel when you got up and did the workout anyway?

Now if you were truly at peace and it felt good to stay in bed, you probably needed the sleep. But if you listen to your heart, you can always feel if your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions are in alignment—even if you are taking an action that on the surface seems like it would feel way harder.

This is true whether you are reducing your weight, improving your life, or standing up for something that you believe in. Your emotions are your direction, gauge, guidance, indicator, litmus test letting you know if you are moving towards who you are meant to be, or are taking a detour.

My Mother taught me this from her example. In 1957, she was a student at Little Rock

My mother in the late 50s.

Central High School when it was first integrated by nine African-American students. She did what she felt was right. Simple things, liking sharing her desk and math text book with one of the incoming students on their first day. Smiling and offering encouragement throughout the year.

And for this, she was spat on, harassed, and sent threatening notes on almost a daily basis. The other white students made her last year of high school a living hell. And yet she did not waver.

To this day, I don’t think she feels better about anything else she has done in life. If anything, her regret is that she didn’t do more.

But clearly she did enough. During one of the anniversaries of the integration, Oprah Winfrey asked the Little Rock Nine, as the students came to be known, if any white students had helped. My mother was the only one they remembered. Oprah flew my mother out to her studios and reunited her with the student with whom she had shared her book, and he let her know how very important her smile across a room had been.

Doing what feels good, what feels right, what feels like it is in alignment with who you are, what you value, what you believe, and who you want to be may be damn hard. But the reward will always be absolutely worth it.

Doing what feels good does not necessarily mean doing what is easy. Nothing feels better than doing the work to meet your goals, or facing the challenge.

Together we can do it!

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Situations for Appreciation

Admittedly, I don’t watch a lot of television, and I watch even less sports on television. But thanks to social media, even I know something of Tim Tebow, the quarter back for the Denver Broncos who has been cheered and jeered for getting down on one knee and offering up a prayer of gratitude every time his team scores.

Last night, my husband had on a football game that I was ignoring as I read when all of a sudden the game had my full attention. Tebow and his teammates put a sudden end to their playoff game against Pittsburgh with an 11-second throw, catch, and run that accounted for the quickest overtime win in the National Football League’s history.

And I got to watch Tebowing—as Tebow’s prayer in the end-zone is now known—for myself.

Religious debate aside, it is brilliant on so many levels and has lessons for all of us to learn.

Focus On What You Want

If you consider that one of life’s foundation principles is that “Energy Attracts Like Energy,” also known as the Law of Attraction, what is more powerful than focusing your energy on what you want? And in Tebow’s case, what he wants is to score and win. By kneeling down and offering up a prayer of thanks every time his team scores, Tebow puts his energy—mind, body, and spirit—into what he wants.

It doesn’t get much better than that.

The Power of Gratitude and Appreciation

Our emotions are way more powerful than people often realize. They literally affect our bodies, minds, beliefs, and spirit.

If you are focused on negative, catabolic emotions, you are generating destructive chemical processes in the body that literally eat away at your cells. They generate thoughts of self-doubt, create negative expectations, and shut you off from who you truly are and the energetic support of All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source, Higher Coach—whatever works for you).

Positive, anabolic emotions generate constructive chemical processes in the body that build and support your body. They generate self-confidence and belief in your abilities, open you up to becoming the best possible version of you, and help you tap into Universal Source Energy.

At the top of the vibrational list of anabolic emotions are love, joy, and appreciation. Imagine what you would create in your life if you looked at everything as a situation for appreciation.

Link Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Beliefs with Action

Apparently, Tebow is aligning his thoughts and beliefs about the importance of giving thanks to God for the good things that happen to him with the action of kneeling and prayer and playing the game and scoring.

As we see in Life Coaching, aligning your thoughts, feelings and beliefs with action truly transforms your ability to achieve outer goals with extraordinary and sustainable results.

Don’t Worry About What Other People Think

“It is better to follow the Voice inside and be at war with the whole world, than to follow the ways of the world and be at war with your deepest self.”

Michael Pastore

If Tebow begins paying attention to all the critics out there, he will no longer be focused on what he wants, be feeling gratitude and appreciation, and aligning his thoughts feelings, and beliefs with action. If that happens, you can bet his game will be off. It is only by doing what he believes to be right—and letting go of what anybody else says, thinks, or does—that he is stepping into his true Power.

Now I’m not saying that you need to start Tebowing, but I would suggest you use Tim Tebow as an example of the power of focusing on what you want, appreciating what you have, linking your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs with action, and letting go of what other people think.

How can you focus more on what you want? What can you use today as a situation for appreciation? How can you better align your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs with action? And how can you let go of what other people think?

Do this, and you will be creating amazing plays in your life, too.

Together we can do it!

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