Love Your Body to Get the Body You Love


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“I want perfect health! I like feeling good. I enjoy my good-feeling body. I have many positive memories of feeling good in my body. I see many people who are clearly in a state of good health, and it is easy to see how much they are enjoying their good-feeling bodies.” When I think thoughts like these, I feel good. These thoughts are in harmony with a healthy body.




I’m just going to come out and say it.

There is more to getting the body you want than diet and exercise alone.

This is the reason that an estimated 85 to 95 percent of diet and exercise programs fail long-term.

What is this vital piece that is missing?

It’s the energy at your core.

This is the energy that is generated by your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that is literally impacting your body at the cellular level.

It is this core energy that also connects you to Who you really are, and the Divine presence that is working in your life.

In the Core Energy Coaching™ Process that I use with my clients, the focus is two types of energies that are within each person’s core: Anabolic Energy and Catabolic Energy. 

Catabolic Energy is draining, destructive, and harmful to your body. It’s associated with negative thoughts and emotions.

It’s Stress.

Negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, generate catabolic energy that releases the stress hormone cortisol, adrenaline, and other chemicals that literally can cannibalize your body. Over time, this catabolic energy can cause everything from painful trigger points in your shoulders, to inflammation, to heart attacks.

It can even impact your metabolism and other weight-related systems making it easier to gain and harder to release weight.

At the other end of the spectrum is positive Anabolic energy.

Anabolic Energy is constructive and growth oriented. It’s associated with positive thoughts and emotions.

The anabolic energy generated by positive thoughts, feelings, and beliefs releases endorphins, testosterone, and body supporting hormones that help your body heal, rebuild, and flow with physical energy.

And yes, makes it easier to release excess weight.

Here’s an example of how catabolic thoughts, feelings, and beliefs impact your weight.

If you frequently feel that you are at the effect of external circumstances that you believe are outside of your control, at some level you feel powerless.

Maybe this shows up as:

  • Feeling unappreciated by your boss and you come home and eat a pint of ice cream.
  • Or you feel overwhelmed by everything you have on your Holiday to-do list, and fall into the chocolate.
  •  Or you’re dreading the work project you are facing, and mindlessly eat an entire bag of chips.

Some element of life is coming at you, and you are coping with these negative, emotions by eating a food that will trigger a temporary hormonal reaction in your body that does makes you feel better.

It’s like taking a drug–you do feel better!

The problem is that once the physical reaction subsides, feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing take over, driving up negative catabolic chemical reactions in your body—and those negative feelings send you back to the fridge.

Now you’re caught in an unhealthy spiral.

Your level of energy determines how successful you will be at getting the body—and life—that you want.

  • The more positive anabolic energy you have, the more capacity, buy-in, and overall success you have—meaning you have the energy to get up in the morning and move.
  • Your core energy impacts your self-concept and your concept of the world around you—those things that can drive you to the fridge.
  • It impacts how you relate, perceive and engage with others.

When you shift your core energy level by changing your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs—about your body, who you really are, and what you are capable of–you begin to fall in love with yourself.

Recognizing how stunningly beautiful you already are makes it so much easier to get the body you want.

Begin by consciously spending a few minutes every day thinking thoughts about your body and wellness that make you feel good.

While you may not see physical changes right away, you will immediately feel the difference when you are thinking thoughts that are in harmony with your body.

It comes down to this simple truth.

Positive thoughts and emotions support your body down to the cellular level. To get the body you want, practice being happy.

Together we can do it!



Love or Hate Your Workout? That’s Impacting Your Results

Why is it that one person can follow a diet and exercise program and have great results and another use the exact same regimen and not see the same progress?

It has less to do with your metabolism, genes, luck, etc., etc., than you might think.

An often overlooked but critical factor are your thoughts and feelings while you are doing the diet or exercise program.

This is truly one of the missing links that causes so many diet and exercise programs to fail.

Think of it this way. How much are you going to give your exercise program your all if the entire time you’re thinking thoughts like:

“I hate exercise.”

“How soon till this is over?”

“I hate to sweat.”

“Just get me through this torture.”

With thoughts like that—and the resulting sluggish results—how likely are you going to sustain your exercise program?

Chances are not good!

Instead, what if during your workout you are choosing to think about:

  • All the reasons Why you want optimal wellness.
  • Affirmations reinforcing that doing the work will get you the results you want.
  • How good you feel after the workout.

And what if you actually chose a physical activity that you enjoy to begin with?

Wouldn’t you start to look forward to your workouts?

Wouldn’t you start to pay attention to and celebrate signs of progress—even if they were slow and steady?

Every time you had a jolt of unexpected energy during your day, wouldn’t you feel good about having gotten your workout in?

And wouldn’t all those positive thoughts and feelings make you more likely to want to get up and do your workout again tomorrow?

But, you might say, “I hate exercise. I have always hated exercise. That’s just how I feel.”

Believe it or not, you can change long-held thoughts and beliefsif you want to.

You can learn to love exercise by practicing new thoughts and beliefs.

Now I’m not saying you are going to make this shift overnight, but if your wellness is enough of a priority that you will practice consistently, you will be amazed by the results.

Here are some 3 simple ways to practice changing your thoughts.

Figure out a compelling reason Why you want wellness. Certainly use wanting to look good in a swimsuit or for your reunion, but look deeper. What is your true, heart-felt reason that is so strong it inspires you to get up from that nice warm bed to get in your workout?

Write out, read, and feel positive affirmations. Create affirmations that shift your thinking just a little bit so they are believable. Practice reading them—and feeling them—each day when you are not working out and bring them to mind while you are exercising. Soon you won’t have to remind yourself to think those thoughts. They will come naturally.

Focus on your progress. Mentally look for and celebrate each tiny sign of success. Note how good you feel after your workout, how much easier your pants button, your increased stamina after walking up a flight of stairs. Each celebration builds your positive momentum, making it easier to sustain action.

These suggestions may be simple, but they are powerful. Practice them consistently and before you know it, you will be one of those people who loves moving their bodies!

Together we can do it!

How to Be Fit, Strong, and Slim

“You must become a Vibrational Match to the qualities you seek, because what comes to you always matches you.”


Stop trying and Be.

This is the message I have been receiving.

Stop trying to be fit, strong, and slim, and Be fit, strong, and slim. Stop trying in all areas of my life, and Be who I want to be.

What does this look like?

To Be fit, strong, and slim then you must consistently make the decisions that someone who is fit, strong, and slim would make. You must think like a slim person, react like a slim person, embody a slim person.

How do you do this when you have never been fit, strong, and slim, or didn’t pay attention when you were?

You have to tap into the power of your imagination.

Imagine. . .

Being at your optimal weight

Appreciating, and feeling comfortable and confident in your body

Waking up every morning energized and eager to start your day

Thriving—body, mind, and spirit

Maximizing your self-care so that you have the energy and time to care for others

Feeling attractive

Having fun in the process of achieving your goals

Having control over hunger, cravings, and emotions

Enjoying sharing your love physically with your partner

Creating a body—and life—that you love

Imagine how that would feel, and feel that way right now.

You have just harnessed the vibrational energy of your thoughts and emotions, which will make taking action that much easier. Practice these thoughts and feelings daily and you’ll pave the way for easier and more effective action.

Ah, the ever-important action.

Yes, the action of making healthy decisions is important, but the reason so many diet and exercise programs fail in the long-term is that they only focus on the external.

Action alone only has so much energetic power. When you tie it to the energy of your thoughts and emotions, you’ve just added a rocket booster to the action.

To take the action to Be fit, strong, and slim, find a healthy diet and exercise program that feels like something that you could make a life-style, and then consistently follow it. And when you are faced with a choice think about and decide how the fit, strong, and slim You would react, and then react that way.

Stop trying and Be.

Every moment of every day you are creating your life. Each decision will either hold you in place or move you towards the person you want to become.

What decisions are you going to make today that will help you Be that person?

Together we can do it!

Is Action Always the Answer?

Action is a tricky thing.

There’s a lot of advice out there saying you have to jump into action to spur the forces of the Universe to work on your behalf.

And that’s kinda sorta true.

It is true that you will never get fit sitting on your sofa.

But, why are some people joyfully working out and some feel unmotivated to get off the sofa?

Because the momentum for action begins way before the moment comes to get off the sofa and just do it.

There is a build up of energy from thoughts, emotions, and beliefs behind the action or inaction. And willpower alone is often not enough to break out of the energetic pattern you have created.

For instance, if you have spent a heck of a lot of time thinking about how much you hate exercise, you hate sweating, you hate your body, you hate how your body feels when it moves, etc., etc., getting up off the sofa will take Herculean effort.

Not doing the internal work to shift this existing energetic momentum is why so many diet and exercise programs fail.

When you think about the underlying principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy” (also known at the Law of Attraction), being overly focused on where you are—or where you have been—just keeps summoning similar experiences, situations, and people so that your results never seem to change.

In other words, you just don’t have the mental and physical energy to get off the sofa or maintain your action if you are able to get started–even if you desperately want to.

This can lead to frustration, disillusionment, and even giving up on achieving your goals.

How do you begin to slow down and change the momentum of the internal energetic patterns you have going on? 

This is the missing link to losing weight once and for all.

You begin by thinking about all the reasons you do want to workout instead of all the reasons you don’t.

You tap into how being fit, strong, and slim will feel, and allow yourself to feel that way right now.

It’s giving yourself a heck of a lot of kudos, support, and appreciation when you do get off the sofa, even if it’s just to take the dog around the block.

It’s being OK with doing what you can do, and looking forward to doing a little bit more tomorrow.

It’s looking at the examples of others who have been where you are and have been successful at meeting similar goals so you begin to believe you can do it, too.

It’s staying focused on all the reasons you do want to make the changes and how awesome the end result will feel.

It’s ignoring your fearful inner voice that tries to convince you that the safety of right now is where you want to stay.

And this is where faith comes in.

It’s letting yourself believe that the Universe (God, Source, All-That-Is, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) is on your side, regardless of your current experience.

It’s a willingness to let yourself be optimistic and to feel good now, even when your situation hasn’t changed.

It’s accepting where you are, without letting go of your goals.

It’s an unshakable belief that what you want is absolutely and completely yours and on its way to you, and letting go of any evidence to the contrary.

It’s ignoring naysayers, and being brave enough to think and believe something different from the crowd.

It’s looking inside for the answers and embracing your own internal light.

As you practice these new thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, you begin to notice that it easier to get off the sofa and go walk for 10 minutes. Soon you want to run a mile. And once you get the energetic momentum going, you realize you’re one of those people who is joyfully working out.

What can you do today to change your energetic momentum? How can you practice that again tomorrow? How does this impact your energy to take action?

Together we can do it!

Do You Believe That? The Missing Link to Losing Weight

Do you spend more time focused on all the reasons you don’t want to eat healthy foods and move your body, or all the reasons you do?

How do you think that impacts your actions?

Your thoughts predict the success of your actions. Meaning that if you think about how much you hate working out, getting the motivation to move will be pretty darn hard. If you spend more time thinking about all the reasons you do want to work out, then getting up and doing your workout will be easier.

Action alone is not enough. Not changing your thoughts and beliefs along with taking the action is the reason the majority of diet and exercise programs fail.

Focusing your thoughts on what you do want is a simple but profound change that will significantly alter your weight-loss results—or the results of any goal you want to achieve.

Simple, however, does not necessarily mean easy.

Most people have never contemplated the idea that they have control over their thoughts. In fact, they may believe they are victim to their thoughts.

Back to your thoughts predict the success of your actions. If you think you have no control over your thoughts, how likely are you to be able to take control? (Hint: not very!)

You may also have practiced some thoughts for a very long time about eating healthy and exercise. These thoughts may have some momentum going. Momentum means they now include your belief that you are someone who doesn’t like eating healthy foods and moving your body.

As Abraham-Hicks says, “A belief is just a thought you keep thinking.”

To change a belief you have to use another belief. For instance, you probably can’t counter the belief that you hate to exercise with the belief that you love to exercise because you don’t really believe that you love to exercise. Make sense?

Shifting a belief is best done in baby steps. In other words, you can shift your belief about hating to exercise by altering your thoughts just slightly towards what you do want. But you have to believe these new thoughts.

For example, whenever you catch yourself thinking about exercise, instead of hating it, you choose to think about how much you want to feel better. How much you like it when you can easily button your pants. How much you enjoy being strong enough to pick up your child.

You just gently and easily change your thoughts. This slows the momentum and eventually shifts your thoughts towards the direction you want to go.

Rather quickly, you begin to look forward to your workouts and how awesome you will feel afterwards. When buttoning your pants gets easy, you begin thinking about how great it will feel to wear a smaller size. When lifting your child is easy, you think about how awesome running and playing with them will feel.

And then you are more eager to work out and see improvements. Moving your body becomes your priority because it improves every aspect of your life. It gives you more energy so you do more with the time you have. You look better, feel better, and you inspire those around you.

One day your realize that you love working out. And you believe it.

Consistently thinking about all the reasons you do want to work out and eat healthy foods makes exercising and eating right easier.

What new thought can you practice today that will help move you in the direction you want to go?

Together we can do it!