A Celebration of Life

As my thoughts continue to be with my friends who have recently lost loved ones, today’s Friday Story from Bob Proctor felt like the perfect message to share.

Hello there and welcome, I’m Bob Proctor.

I recently lost a very good friend of mine, Adele Claxton. Roy and Del were good friends and they were very good to me and Del just recently passed away.

I flew out to California where they were holding a celebration of her life. And I thought, what a wise move. You know we’ve got into the habit of having funerals where people sit around and they feel bad about the loss. In the celebration of life we feel good about all the great things Del did and how she helped so many people.

I had an opportunity to speak for a few minutes at it and I was saying that her beautiful personality lives on in her daughters Lorrie and Celeste. Nothing really dies.

I got thinking of all the studying that I have done, all the religion, it doesn’t matter what religion it is. There is no such thing as death. If you study science, nothing is created or destroyed. Think about that for a moment. The soul moves out of the body and it goes on to the next phase of its eternal journey.

I have been asked two or three times on conference calls where we were doing coaching. “How do you handle the grief when you lose someone?”

I said, a certain amount of grief is healthy but then you need to get on and celebrate that person’s life. Understand that person may be gone physically but they are not gone spiritually. You see, even the physical body doesn’t die. If you look at the body through a microscope you see it moving right before your eyes. How would it ever change to dust otherwise?

There is no such thing as death. Birth and death as we know it are both transitions. We move into this body and we will most certainly move out of it.

I have been asked so often that I thought I would turn my thoughts into a Friday story. If you have lost someone close to you, stop and realize that they are on the next phase of their eternal journey. If they could speak to you and they probably would like to, they would probably share with you the words of the poet, where he said, “If you could see where I went you will wonder why you ever wept.”

You see I have been into the non-physical part of our life for a long time. I just decided I was going to do this maybe to help you understand it a little better. Maybe you can share this with a loved one who has just lost a loved one. They may be gone physically but I can assure you they are here in spirit.

Bob Proctor



What Are You Afraid Of?

“Every living thing—animal, human, or plant—experiences that which is called death, with no exception. Spirit, which is who-we-really-are, is Eternal. So what death must be is but a changing of the perspective of that Eternal Spirit. If you are standing in your physical body and consciously connected to that Spirit, then you are Eternal in nature and you need never fear any “endedness,” because, from that perspective, there is none. (You will never cease to be, for you are Eternal Consciousness.)”

Abraham as interpreted by Esther Hicks

“What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”

Robert H. Schuller

In Saturday’s blog, I wrote about the number one regret that people who were dying reported to Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. That regret? The wish that they’d had the courage to live life true to themselves and not the life others expected of them.

The biggest reason people don’t live true to themselves? Fear. Fear of failure, fear of what others will think, fear that they are less than Who they truly are.

As someone who spent a lot of my life buckled under the weight of that fear, I encourage you with all my being to throw it off.

That fear is a blindfold pulled over our collective eyes. It is not Truth.

The Truth is it is impossible to fail, because there can be no failure where there is learning and growth. And every experience is valuable.

The Truth is what others think does not matter. They do not—and cannot—know your heart. You have to search within to find that, and you are the only one who can know your heart fully.

The Truth is you cannot fail because your Spirit is Eternal. The point of life is living. There is no way to get it wrong.

Live life true to yourself.” This is the wisdom passed on to you by those who wished they had done things differently.

It means letting go of false beliefs about Who you are, what you are capable of, and what you deserve.

It means letting go of fear that does not serve you.

It means listening to your own heart.

It means having faith in your eternal nature.

Every moment of every day you are creating your life. Each decision either holds you in place or moves you towards the person you want to become—the person you are meant to be.

What is one small thing you can you do today to live life true to yourself? How does that make you feel? How much closer are you to being the person you want to become?

Together we can do it!

Be True to Yourself

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

According to an article in The Guardian, this is the number one regret that people who were dying reported to Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care treating patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives.

With the clarity that comes with approaching death, Ware’s patients realized that not living their dreams was due to choices they had made—or not made.

They recognized they were in charge of their happiness.

If I asked you if you were in charge of your happiness, would you find that exhilarating, or feel compelled to tell me all the reasons you’re not?

Reasons such as:

  • “My Mom, spouse, partner, friends, etc., wouldn’t approve, or thinks I should do something different.”
  • “I’m afraid I’ll disappoint or hurt my Dad, spouse, partner, friends, etc.”
  • “I’m trapped in my current job or situation.”
  • “I don’t have the time, money, experience, etc.”
  • “I have too much to do.”
  • “My life is good enough as it is.”
  • “I might fail.”
  • “People will think I’m crazy.”
  • “I’m too old.”
  • “I’m too young.”
  • “I don’t know if that would really make me happy.”
  • “I might make the wrong choice.”

Your reason may be totally and completely valid for you. Just recognize that either consciously or by default, you are making a choice.

Are you making the choice that feels best to you? Are you making the choice that aligns with your goals, core values, and beliefs? Are you making the choice that is helping you be authentically you? Are you making the choice that when it’s time to look back on your life, you’ll feel good about making?

If you are making your decision based on how others might feel, think, or be impacted, you may be taking away their choices, too. For instance, if you’re afraid to leave your job, you may be keeping your employer from hiring someone who absolutely loves the job and has a passion for it.

This doesn’t mean that making a decision that impacts others is easy—or is the right decision—but by truly picking the path that is best for you, you also create new opportunities and options for the people around you. Making the choices that are best for you will enable others to make the best choices for them.

What is one small choice you can make today to live life true to yourself? What difference does that make in your life?

Together we can do it!