Wellness Tip of the Weekend: Figuring out who you are and being the best possible version of you helps you find your purpose and passion in life.
Typically fun is associated with relaxation and recreation (re-creation). For most people, having fun means being on vacation, perhaps at the beach or on a cruise, or having a drink with friends, or being at a sporting event. Fun is defined by being kicked-back with nothing to do and no responsibilities.
While this kind of re-creation is indeed fun and incredibly important for recharging our positive anabolic batteries, when fun is so narrowly defined, most of life is spent not having fun.
What if you were to broaden and expand your definition of fun? What if you began to include what you’re doing?
Fun is laughing so hard you cry, being with friends and family, and feeling free, but it’s also solving problems, achieving a goal, being engaged in the task at hand, and the satisfaction of a job well done.
Fun is pushing yourself to and past your limits, knowing you gave something your all, reaching out to help another, and shifting how you think about a situation, person, or event.
Fun is pursuing things you’re passionate about, embracing who you truly are, learning from experiences that many might call mistakes, and being aligned with your core values.
Fun is taking responsibility for everything in your life, is quiet moments of meditation and appreciation, and is striving for excellence.
Fun is repairing damaged relationships, admitting when you’re wrong or don’t have all the answers, and is striving to be the best possible version of you.
Fun is taking life as it comes, focusing more on where you are than on your future destination, and making decisions that move you towards your ultimate goal.
Fun is seeing the opportunities in every moment, cultivating a belief that everything is always working out for you, and enjoying the heck out of the ride that is life.
How can you broaden your definition of fun to include what you’re doing? How much does that increase the amount of fun you’re having? How might that impact your life?
Together we can do it!
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What if all you had to do to be the best possible version of you was to accept that higher vision as Truth, and let go of some long-practiced inaccurate thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about Who you are, what you deserve, and how great your life can be?
Would being that bigger, brighter, happier version of you be worth the time and effort to let go of everything but the belief that you can be that person?
If you at least hope that these words are true, then you can become the best possible version of you.
If you don’t believe they are true, then that is all that is holding you back from doing the same thing.
During coach training this weekend, I got some clarity on all those things that I think and tell myself that hold me back from being the best possible version of me.
It all boiled down to old messages that I picked up along the road of life that are not true.
- “Don’t try because it will only lead to failure and rejection.”
- “No one listens or cares about me.”
- “I’m not capable.”
- “I should have known and done better.”
- “I am stupid, forgetful, thoughtless, lazy, etc.”
- “Life is hard.”
- “I have to do everything myself.”
- “I must protect myself.”
- “I must control all aspects of my life.”
- “Eating helps me relax.”
- “I don’t want to be told what to do.”
There are of course lots more, but I expect you get the point and might even recognize some of these as thoughts and beliefs that you’ve had.
Your negative, catabolic self-perception and world-view is all that is holding you back. Whoever told you those things was wrong. Those conclusions you drew were inaccurate.
The Truth is the only way to succeed is to have fun trying, and to learn from each experience until you get the result you want. You are fully seen and loved beyond measure. You are more capable than you can imagine. The process of learning how to do better is incredibly valuable. You are worthy and brilliant. All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) is working on your behalf, if you will let It. There is no one right way to do anything and the way others do it is valuable. You are perfectly safe. Your life is unfolding just as it should. All of your emotions are valuable and are worth feeling fully. Finding the solution that works best for everyone is the best way to work with others.
Create a vision of Who you are when you are at your best. What are the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that are holding you back? What can you do today to be the person you truly are?
Together we can do it!
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Wellness Tip of the Day: Part of being the best possible version of you is doing things you love, and seeking out new things, people, and experiences to enjoy.
Wellness Tip of the Weekend: Part of being the best possible version of you is letting go of who you think you should be and embracing who you really are.
Nobody experiences or sees the world exactly the way that you do. Because every moment of life is new and ever-changing, all of the individual perspectives in the world are constantly changing and being shaped. The person you are in this moment will be slightly different in the next as you take in these words and the environment around you.
Not only are you influenced by outside experiences, but in this moment you can also consciously choose your perspective, thought, and reaction.
The uniqueness of each individual and their journey is one of my favorite things to ponder. But what does it really mean for our day-to-day lives?
One of the things it can do is help you recognize and accept your innate value. You have value because your experiences and how you see the world are slightly different from anyone else on the planet. You add to the greater whole.
But that’s still pretty esoteric. What does it really mean?
It means that you matter. It means that the greatest gift you can give the world is to be the absolute best possible version of you.
So often, people get caught up in their lives and doing and caring for others that they forget Who they are. They don’t take time to think about what makes them tick? What are their values? What do they enjoy? What’s important to them? How do they want to spend their time? Who do they want to spend time with?
Instead of consciously choosing your path, you may be buffeted along in the hubbub of day-to-day life until you wake up one day and realize you don’t like where you are and that you no longer know the answers to those questions. It’s typically not a pleasant day.
You can also lose sight of Who you are by constantly comparing yourself to other people. If gazing over at someone else’s experience is inspiring, that’s great! Keep doing it. But more often than not, people use the life of another to judge or criticize themselves, their contributions and progress, and their value. You are never going to be able to authentically live another’s life, and trying to do so never feels good.
Other than being somewhat unpleasant, neither of these paths is “bad” or “wrong.” They will still help you create the irreplaceable you, and ultimately taking the scenic route can be very fulfilling.
It’s just that focusing on being the best possible version of you throughout your journey can be a lot more fun and robust. It like catching a wave and riding it into shore versus paddling the whole way.
What does being the best possible version of you mean? Who is that person? What small step can you take today towards being that person?
Together we can do it!