The Wait is Over to Get the Body You Want!

I was standing on the red rocks in Sedona, Arizona, last week feeling fully engaged in my life.

There was no more “waiting” to turn my dreams into a reality. I was taking bold, concrete steps to serve the women whose pain I understand—and have personally overcome.

If you are like many of the women I work with, there’s some part of your life that you are putting off “until you lose weight.” Maybe it’s taking that trip to the beach, or really going after a promotion, or even taking a dance class.

Chances are, there is something that you would do “if only” you were thinner.

The reality is that waiting to fully live your life is actually one of the things keeping you stuck in the rebound cycle of regaining the same 30 pounds over and over again.

It’s time to let go of the wait, so you can let go of the weight.

I know it’s scary. 

There’s a part of you that believes you can’t do it, that people will laugh, that you are less than you really are.

It’s not true.

And it’s time to fully live your life to get the body you want.

Here are some tips to get started:

  • Think about all the reasons Why you want to do that thing you have been putting off. That can range from it just being fun, to helping you meet people and establish relationships, to helping you fulfill your life’s purpose.
  • Think about how doing that thing will make you feel. Will it feel exhilarating? Exciting? Satisfying? Make a list and practice feeling that way right now.
  • Think about one small thing that you could do today or this week that would make you feel like you were moving forward. Maybe it’s looking up trip information online, opening the conversation with your boss about the promotion, or scheduling the dates of the dance class in your calendar. Then think about the next small step you can take.

Stop waiting to live your life until “you lose weight.” Focus on what you want, feel that surge of positive energy, and begin creating the life you want today.

Together we can do it!

Ready to stop the rebound weight cycle once and for all? While in Sedona last week, I put the finishing touches on a new coaching program starting January 7 that will help you finally get the body you really want.

 Photos by Lindsay Miller

Shhh! Your Body Is Listening!

“I’m too old.”

“My body is broken”

“I’m stuck the way I am.”

These were some of the words spoken by a beautiful and amazing woman who was helping me get ready for a photo shoot last week.

As most of my regular readers know, I’ve been in Sedona, Arizona, for the past seven days taking steps to move my business to the next level. This included attending a mastermind retreat, having a professional photo shoot with Lindsay Miller, and getting a full VIP day with my coach, Kendra Thornbury.

The photo shoot was definitely one of the highlights.

Here I was in the process of taking steps to get my message “Love Your Way Slim: Transform Your Mind to Get the Body You Want” to more people, and the woman in front of me was in pain.

Many of the women I work with express similar thoughts and feelings.

This is why I’m doing what I’m doing.

  • Too many women suffer from body shame.
  • Too many women spend their days spewing tirades of self-criticism because their waist bands are tight.
  • Too many women have given up hope.

So I began talking to this woman. And after hearing, “I’m too old” over and over again, I brought her words to her attention.

“Shhh. Your body is listening.” 

Think about the words you are using. Think about the thoughts that you are thinking. Think about the emotions you are feeling. 

Your body is hearing and experiencing it all.

As Dr. Masaru Emoto from Japan has shown, even water molecules are impacted by our thoughts.

On just this alone, imagine what your thoughts are doing to your body, which is made up primarily of water.

Your body is working tirelessly on your behalf and you are the captain of the ship. Your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are impacting how your body looks and feels. 

Are you creating the body you really want—or not?

Begin by softening the words you use. 

  • You may be older, but your body is incredibly resilient.
  • When you give your body the love and physical support it needs, amazing transformations can happen.
  • You just aren’t where you want to be right now.

Pay attention to the thoughts and words you are using. Your body is listening.

Together we can do it!

Here are a few of the photos taken by the incredible Lindsay Miller. “Love Your Way Slim,” my new brand and website, will be launching in December!

Let Go of the BS Weighing You Down

It should be easy. 

It should come naturally. 

But loving yourself can be darn hard.

This is because you’re dealing with your own BS—Belief System. And you have to let go of the BS to love your way slim.

Here’s a quick and easy test to see if your BS is getting in the way of achieving your wellness goals.

Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you” and really mean it?

If that feels like anything less than complete and total Truth, you have some work to do to let go of the BS that is literally weighing you down.

Often, women I work with struggle to look themselves in the eye and say anything positive. All they can see is their flaws. When they try to say positive affirmations about themselves or their bodies it feels like a big fat lie.

You must learn to love yourself first in order to truly open up your heart to others and strive to be the best version of you. Far from being the selfish act women often think this is, self-love gives you the energy and empowerment to be more self-less.

This is true because All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) loves you, adores you, and sees your body as perfect.

And just as you are loved and adored by All-That-Is, so is everyone else. Everyone adds irreplaceable value to this world. The more you love yourself—just as you are—the more you are able to love and accept others.

It is not only OK to love yourself, but it is Who you are meant to be.

  • It is time for you to appreciate Who you are, and the unique gifts and perspective that you bring to this growing and expanding Universe.
  • It is time to look in the mirror and revel in the person and body you have helped co-create.
  • It is time to open your heart so that you can more fully love and appreciate yourself—and others.

A simple way to begin loving yourself is to start a daily practice of standing in front of a mirror and focusing on three things that you love.

What are those things about yourself that you can agree with Source are worth appreciating? Today, look for those things. Acknowledge those things. Celebrate those things.

Because you are worthy of your own self-love.

Together we can do it!

I’m excited to announce that I have 3 coaching spaces open to help you love your way slim. If you are serious about transforming your mind and body, secure your spot now by emailing me at by November 11 to schedule your complimentary breakthrough session. These powerful sessions are available on a limited basis. Don’t wait till Jan 2 to take inspired action. Start creating the body—and life—you want today.




Transforming Your Mind to Get the Body—and Life—You Want

I try to practice what I preach.

While I’m far from perfect, my self-care is a priority. Most of the time, I eat healthy food, make meditation and moving my body a part of my daily routine, and strive to get adequate sleep.

And I focus on appreciating myself and what I contribute to the world.

But I got a strong message yesterday during a Reiki session that I’m not following the advice I give to my clients. That I’m not being as gentle with myself as I could be, that I’m letting old fear get in the way of showing up as my fullest and brightest self—as Who I really am—and that I’m not fully loving myself.

I’ve come a long way, but clearly I have more work to do!

The good news—and what I tell my clients—is that every layer of fear, resistance, and self-judgment that we let go of makes our lives better and better. And we never finish finding new layers that we have the opportunity to release.

Bottom line: the better life gets, the better it can get.

And honestly, the message I received wasn’t that surprising.

  • I’m aware of how self-critical I can be when my eating is less than perfect, which has been more frequent in the past few weeks.
  • I’m aware of the judgments that can still come when I look in the mirror.
  • I’m aware of holding my loving and exuberant-self back from dancing down the street—and many other things—out of fear of what other people will think.
  • I’m aware that how I express myself in my dress and physical appearance is based on old rules and other’s expectations.
  • I’m aware of the fear of judgment I have because I’m guiding women to love their way slim—and I am not as slim as I could be. There is definitely a part of me that feels like I need to have 8 percent body fat and be ripped to be a legitimate example. I see the coaches who are that, and I negatively compare myself.

Just imagine all the layers I’m not aware of!

So as I encourage you to do the work to transform your mind to get the body you want, know that I’m doing the same. That I’m focused on peeling those catabolic inner layers because that is Who I want to be and how I want to live my life.

  • I want to be gentle and easy with myself.
  • I want to feel good about each decision I make.
  • I want to look in the mirror and bask in appreciation and love.
  • I want to fully be me and express myself.
  • I want to be confident in the value that I am providing each of you fabulous readers and to my amazing clients.

No matter what. From exactly where I am.

I’m not perfect, but I am willing to do the work.

How about you?

Together we can do it!

Blow the Whistle on Negative Self-Talk

I meant to get my workout in this morning.

That’s not something I say often. Typically, if I set the goal, I get it done.

Right on cue, my inner critic has shown up and started telling me that I’m lazy—one of its long-time messages.

I’m blowing my internal whistle on the negative self-talk.

When that part of you that believes that you are less than who you really are shows up, it’s important to take your rightful place as the Coach calling the plays of your life.

Remind your Gremlin that it’s a member of your team meant to help and support you.

I’m assigning my Gremlin the job of helping me get back on track. If I’m taking an unexpected rest day, then tomorrow I want it to encourage me to get up and get moving, remind me of my form, ask me if the weights I’ll be using are challenging enough, and push me to squeeze out one more rep. I want it to help me push past my beliefs about what I think I can do and really give my workout my all.

One of the reasons so many people let that internal voice dominate their inner monologue is they don’t know their own power. They don’t realize that their Gremlin’s job is to help them, not hold them back.

When you give all your power to the Gremlin, it gets a little greedy and controlling. What player left in charge of the team wouldn’t start to believe they’re calling the shots? What’s more, the Gremlin likes being in charge!

This can result in a bit of an internal power struggle when people do start to claim the right to create their own lives.

There are ways to not only make this process easier, but to increase your ability to successfully reclaim the position of Coach in your life.

Here are some tips to recruit and begin to train your inner critic to become the motivational voice that encourages you to move past your believed limits.

  • Look for the Truth. That negative thing the Gremlin is saying isn’t the Truth. It’s just playing on your fears. Figure out what is True. For instance, if it’s telling you the healthy food on your plate is too fattening, look for the Truth, which is that you have thought out your meal plan, you have chosen quality foods bursting with nutrition, and your body not only is perfectly capable of utilizing the calories you are eating, but actually needs them to function optimally.
  • Treat your Gremlin with respect. Your Gremlin is a part of you and because of this you can’t kill it, beat it up, threaten it, or destroy it. Any attempt to do those things will just make it stronger. When it pipes up uninvited, thank it for the input and then remind it of the Truth.
  • Give it a job supporting you. Think about how the energy of the Gremlin could be shifted to help you meet your goals rather than hold you back.
  • Remember you’re the Coach. Take ownership of your life and begin calling the plays. You have the power to decide how you are going to react in every situation. You can follow the Gremlin’s old game plan, or implement a new one that helps create the body–and life–you want.

How are you doing at being the Coach of your life? What can you do today to train your Gremlin to support you? How does that change your ability to meet your goals?

Together we can do it!

Does This Blog Make Me Look Thin?

David and I are headed out this morning to go zip-lining, so I’m sharing one of my favorite past blogs.


Have you ever lost weight, but after you met your goal you still felt fat?

How quickly did you gain back the weight?

Feeling slim is critical to being slim long-term.

Your thoughts and feelings are much more powerful than most people understand.

When you take into account the Foundation Principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy,” also known as the Law of Attraction, you begin to understand that how you see yourself and where you put your focus can make a difference in how well you maintain your weight loss.

To truly be a fit, strong, and slim person, it’s important to see yourself as a fit, strong, and slim person.

One of the reasons is that when you feel slim you begin to take on the behavioral characteristics of someone who is slim.

For instance, how much easier is it to resist those chocolate chip cookies if you are feeling confident and excited about being fit, strong, and slim versus seeing yourself as fat with no hope of ever having a beautiful body?

Most people see themselves through filters of self-criticism, limiting beliefs, assumptions about past experiences repeating themselves, and self-created interpretations about their lives.

Diet and exercise alone doesn’t alter those self-perceptions. Those changes have to come from the inside out.

Removing those negative, catabolic filters and shifting your self-perception so you can truly see yourself living the life you want takes time, energy, and practice, just as creating a healthy lifestyle takes time, energy, and practice.

When you practice both the internal and external changes you begin consciously creating the body–and life–you want.

Here are some simple tips to practice feeling slim.

  • Focus more on the parts of your body you can appreciate. If you are being critical of your stomach, shift your attention to your shapely calves instead.
  • Count and celebrate all the actions you are taking towards meeting your goals—and let go of the rest.
  • Act “as if” you are fit, strong, and slim now. The more you practice the more natural it becomes.

Practicing feeling slim along with healthy eating and moving your body helps you lose weight–and keep it off.

Together we can do it!