Wellness Tip of the Day: As you go to sleep tonight, reflect back on all the good things that happened during the day and all that you appreciate about your life.
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You are Worth Celebrating
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On this day of your life, I believe God wants you to know……that false modesty will get you nowhere — nor will
genuine modesty when it is not required.
Modesty is rarely required by Life, did you know that?
It’s true. People are more self-deprecating than they
ever need to be. God says it’s okay to celebrate
your self. Honor the self, and delight in expressing
your talents and your gifts.
It is through the happy sharing of your treasures that
you show other people that they are treasured.
Always, always remember that.
I heard from a fabulous woman yesterday who was so proud of herself for choosing not to eat any Halloween candy.
But as we were celebrating her success, every other sentence downplayed her achievement.
She said things like:
- “I know it’s silly, but . . .”
- “It’s not that big a deal . . .”
- “Maybe I don’t have a big sweet tooth . . .”
- “It’s stupid to make such a big deal out of this . . .”
I hear these kind of self-deprecating statements a lot. They are not necessary—nor are they helping you get the body you want.
The more clearly you can visualize and celebrate yourself at your best the more you actually show up as that person.
This is true even if you did eat some candy or other Halloween treats.
Another woman I was talking to allowed herself to have two, small homemade chocolate chip cookies in a day of otherwise impeccable eating.
While she wasn’t beating herself up about them (Progress!), she also wasn’t celebrating:
- The good food she did eat all day.
- Her moderation and restraint.
- How much better for her the cookies made with love and fresh ingredients were than highly processed candy.
- How delicious the cookies were and how she focused on eating them and enjoyed every single morsel with gratitude.
Taking a more positive view and focusing on what you are doing “right” generates momentum towards achieving your goals.
The first step towards shifting your focus to build momentum to achieving the body—and life—that you want, is to ask yourself:
- How often do you give yourself a mental high-five?
- How often do you feel the need to downplay your success?
- How willing are you to be silly and playful as you celebrate yourself?
Then take some time to focus on you. Appreciate your unique personality, skills, and talents. Catalog what you are doing to help you meet your goals.
And let go of the rest.
What are the things that you appreciate most about you? Go ahead and look. You are worth celebrating.
Together we can do it!
- Are you struggling with your weight?
- Are you worried about holiday weight gain?
- Are you ready to get the body you really want?
I am excited to offer 2 coaching spaces to help you love your way slim. If you are serious about transforming your mind and body, email me at hannagoss@goss-coaching.com by November 11 to schedule your complimentary breakthrough session. These powerful, empowering sessions are available on a limited basis.
Don’t wait till January 2 to take inspired action. Start creating the body—and life—you want today.
Love Your Way Slim
What feels better?
Having your partner shower you with love and attention, or showering your partner with love and attention?
Most people would agree that while it is delicious to receive another’s love, it is even more exquisite to give love.
How much love are you giving your body?
If you are like most women, you are withholding love. You are demeaning and hateful in what you say and think about your body. You are neglectful—and downright harmful—in your actions.
And in many cases, you are demanding that your body prove its love for you by defying the laws of nature.
When it cannot meet your unreasonable demands, you feel betrayed, let down, and frustrated.
How long would you stay healthy in a relationship where your partner treated you that way?
When you look at your body, how much does it physically reflect how you treat it, and what you say and think about it?
An important step in creating the body you want is recognizing that what you have going with your body is a relationship in every sense of the word. In fact, your relationship with your body is the longest—and most important—of your life. There is no reconciling from that divorce!
Many people have a negative catabolic relationship with their body. At best, they ignore it and at worst they are constantly critical, neglectful, and downright abusive in how they treat it.
The good news is your body has never stopped loving you. Every cell in your body is giving everything it’s got for you. In fact, every cell is giving it’s life for you. Your body is absolutely and completely devoted to you.
It’s not your body that needs to change in this relationship. It is you.
It is you that needs to start providing some love and support to your body. It is you that needs to treat your body as you wish to be treated by your partner.
The first step is to decide that you want to show up differently in this relationship. Examine your reasons why you want to make peace with your body.
Then begin doing what you would do in any relationship to repair the damage.
You might:
- Shift the words you use when examining, or talking to or about your body. Instead of being critical, look for things to compliment.
- Look for all the ways your body is supporting you, instead of focusing on all the ways it’s letting you down.
- Become more aware of how it responds to what you’re feeding it, and begin to choose more nourishing foods.
- Pay attention to how much you move it—is it enough or too much? It will tell you what it needs if you will begin to listen.
- Take the time for self-care. Meditation, getting a massage, taking a luxurious bath, sitting quietly with a cup of tea–all of these are great ways to tune in to what your body is trying to communicate. Listen and respond.
Trust that your body wants nothing more than to have a positive, loving relationship with you, and will knock itself out to respond to this change in relationship.
But if the abuse has been going on for some time, be patient. While the changes will begin happening immediately, you may not see the difference for a little bit. It took time to get where you are and it will take a little time to get to where you want to be.
What would be the benefits of changing your relationship with your body? How different would you feel if you treated your body the way you want to be treated? What difference would that make to your health and well-being?
Together we can do it!
- Are you struggling with your weight?
- Are you worried about holiday weight gain?
- Are you ready to get the body you really want?
I am excited to offer 2 coaching spaces to help you love your way slim. If you are serious about transforming your mind and body, email me at hannagoss@goss-coaching.com by November 11 to schedule your complimentary breakthrough session. These powerful sessions are available on a limited basis.
Don’t wait till Jan 2 to take inspired action. Start creating the body—and life—you want today
Choose a Good Day for a Great Body
Does having one bad experience ruin your whole day?
People often complain to everyone about the traffic jam they got stuck in, or the rude clerk, or their uncooperative kid.
But how much of your day did that bad experience take up?
Often the event that you reacted to with negative, catabolic thoughts and feelings didn’t last very long. So why does it color your entire day?
What do you think the impact is on your body when you dwell predominately on that short-term negative event rather than the more prevalent positive or neutral experiences?
Your negative thoughts—about everything—generates catabolic energy that releases the stress hormone cortisol, adrenaline, and other harmful chemicals that over time deteriorate your body at the cellular level.
Chronic catabolic thoughts and feelings significantly impact your metabolism and other weight-related systems making it easier to gain and harder to release weight.
And no matter how significant the negative event, it is still your choice to focus on it—or not.
This was brought home to me a number of years ago during a conversation with a friend whose husband died unexpectedly while they were getting ready for work. He literally died in her arms.
It doesn’t get much worse than that.
Not long after, I asked how she was doing. Her response, “I’m having a few bad moments in otherwise good days.”
That struck me not only in the heart, but in the head. If she wasn’t allowing the sudden and traumatic death of her husband to bring her down, than what excuse did I have for responding badly to anything going on in my life?
Taking control of creating the body—and life—you want doesn’t mean you will never experience difficult situations. What it means is that you see those situations differently and choose your responses rather than just reacting.
You have the power to have a few bad moments in an otherwise good day—no matter what is going on in your life. Or you can focus so much on that bad thing that you have a terrible day.
The challenge is, when you’ve gotten used to focusing on the negative events, it does takes a little practice to shift your focus to those things you can appreciate.
Here are some tips to switch your focus when you catch yourself in a negative rant:
- Make a list of things you appreciate that you read and add to daily.
- Stop and take 3 to 10 deep breaths.
- Focus on the buzz of your computer or hum of the heater for 5 minutes.
- Look out the window for a few minutes and focus on a bird or plant.
- Put your hand on your heart and count the beats.
- Think about your pets, kids, or anything that makes you go Ahhh.
What can you focus on to make today a good day? How does that help you create a great body?
Together we can do it!
I am super excited to be working with a new client! I have 2 coaching spaces left open to help you love your way slim. If you are serious about transforming your mind and body, secure your spot now by emailing me at hannagoss@goss-coaching.com by November 11 to schedule your complimentary breakthrough session. These powerful sessions are available on a limited basis. Don’t wait till Jan 2 to take inspired action. Start creating the body—and life—you want today.
Let Go of the BS Weighing You Down
It should be easy.
It should come naturally.
But loving yourself can be darn hard.
This is because you’re dealing with your own BS—Belief System. And you have to let go of the BS to love your way slim.
Here’s a quick and easy test to see if your BS is getting in the way of achieving your wellness goals.
Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you” and really mean it?
If that feels like anything less than complete and total Truth, you have some work to do to let go of the BS that is literally weighing you down.
Often, women I work with struggle to look themselves in the eye and say anything positive. All they can see is their flaws. When they try to say positive affirmations about themselves or their bodies it feels like a big fat lie.
You must learn to love yourself first in order to truly open up your heart to others and strive to be the best version of you. Far from being the selfish act women often think this is, self-love gives you the energy and empowerment to be more self-less.
This is true because All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) loves you, adores you, and sees your body as perfect.
And just as you are loved and adored by All-That-Is, so is everyone else. Everyone adds irreplaceable value to this world. The more you love yourself—just as you are—the more you are able to love and accept others.
It is not only OK to love yourself, but it is Who you are meant to be.
- It is time for you to appreciate Who you are, and the unique gifts and perspective that you bring to this growing and expanding Universe.
- It is time to look in the mirror and revel in the person and body you have helped co-create.
- It is time to open your heart so that you can more fully love and appreciate yourself—and others.
A simple way to begin loving yourself is to start a daily practice of standing in front of a mirror and focusing on three things that you love.
What are those things about yourself that you can agree with Source are worth appreciating? Today, look for those things. Acknowledge those things. Celebrate those things.
Because you are worthy of your own self-love.
Together we can do it!
I’m excited to announce that I have 3 coaching spaces open to help you love your way slim. If you are serious about transforming your mind and body, secure your spot now by emailing me at hannagoss@goss-coaching.com by November 11 to schedule your complimentary breakthrough session. These powerful sessions are available on a limited basis. Don’t wait till Jan 2 to take inspired action. Start creating the body—and life—you want today.
Transforming Your Mind to Get the Body—and Life—You Want
I try to practice what I preach.
While I’m far from perfect, my self-care is a priority. Most of the time, I eat healthy food, make meditation and moving my body a part of my daily routine, and strive to get adequate sleep.
And I focus on appreciating myself and what I contribute to the world.
But I got a strong message yesterday during a Reiki session that I’m not following the advice I give to my clients. That I’m not being as gentle with myself as I could be, that I’m letting old fear get in the way of showing up as my fullest and brightest self—as Who I really am—and that I’m not fully loving myself.
I’ve come a long way, but clearly I have more work to do!
The good news—and what I tell my clients—is that every layer of fear, resistance, and self-judgment that we let go of makes our lives better and better. And we never finish finding new layers that we have the opportunity to release.
Bottom line: the better life gets, the better it can get.
And honestly, the message I received wasn’t that surprising.
- I’m aware of how self-critical I can be when my eating is less than perfect, which has been more frequent in the past few weeks.
- I’m aware of the judgments that can still come when I look in the mirror.
- I’m aware of holding my loving and exuberant-self back from dancing down the street—and many other things—out of fear of what other people will think.
- I’m aware that how I express myself in my dress and physical appearance is based on old rules and other’s expectations.
- I’m aware of the fear of judgment I have because I’m guiding women to love their way slim—and I am not as slim as I could be. There is definitely a part of me that feels like I need to have 8 percent body fat and be ripped to be a legitimate example. I see the coaches who are that, and I negatively compare myself.
Just imagine all the layers I’m not aware of!
So as I encourage you to do the work to transform your mind to get the body you want, know that I’m doing the same. That I’m focused on peeling those catabolic inner layers because that is Who I want to be and how I want to live my life.
- I want to be gentle and easy with myself.
- I want to feel good about each decision I make.
- I want to look in the mirror and bask in appreciation and love.
- I want to fully be me and express myself.
- I want to be confident in the value that I am providing each of you fabulous readers and to my amazing clients.
No matter what. From exactly where I am.
I’m not perfect, but I am willing to do the work.
How about you?
Together we can do it!
Wellness Tip of the Weekend
Aside
Wellness Tip of the Weekend: Look for and appreciate the gifts from All-That-Is—those moments of synchronicity, coincidence, happenstance, miracle, chance, luck.
How to See Yourself as Sexworthy
A woman I work with was going to have her kids out of the house for the weekend and was planning to surprise romance her husband. But while she was getting dressed, she began criticizing her body.
She imagined her husband being as disgusted by her body as she was, and she felt unsexworthy.
The negative self-judgment was so painful that she wound up spending the evening crying alone in her bedroom.
I know that she is not the only one.
Many women who struggle with their weight avoid or turn down sex with their partners, or hide their bodies in the dark and under the covers.
They suffer from body shame.
Often, what is happening is you are so afraid of being judged and criticized by others that you heap on the self-abuse to the point that you shut down and shut off everything but the pain.
From this place of fear and despair it’s impossible to believe that anyone would find you attractive—or that you are worthy of another’s appreciation and love.
But the painful truth is that no one else was in that room with my client. No one else was heaping on criticism or telling her she was unattractive.
She was doing it to herself.
She never even gave her husband the chance to see her, comfort her, reassure her, and demonstrate to her how sexy he thinks she is and how much he loves her.
She took that opportunity away from him.
And the negative thoughts she attributed to him—without his input or knowledge—are now a belief about him that she is carrying around that will impact their relationship in subtle ways.
You have to feel lovable to be fully present and loving in a relationship.
Often, the fear of judgment is way, way worse than any criticism you may receive.
It’s time to break through this block of fear that is literally weighing you down.
One of the best ways to begin is to keep a judgment journal.
This exercise from Energy Leadership by Bruce Schneider calls for carrying around a small notebook or using the notes feature in your phone and jotting down every judgment you are aware of—about yourself or others.
You will quickly see just how often you are in judgment, and you can then ease up on your criticisms.
This self-awareness is extremely important when you consider the Foundation Principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy,” also known as the Law of Attraction.
At its simplest, what this means is that when you are judging, you are attracting more opportunities to judge—and be judged. When you are loving, you are attracting more opportunities to love—and be loved.
What you think about yourself—and others—matters.
Begin to ease up on your self-criticism and examine your own judgments. When you see yourself—and others—as beautiful you change your perception of your body, relationships—and life.
You see yourself as sexworthy.
Together we can do it!
Wellness Tip of the Day
Aside
Wellness Tip of the Day: Look for and appreciate those moments of synchronicity, coincidence, happenstance, miracle, chance, luck. They are gifts. Receive them.
Satisfy the Craving Without the Food
How do you think that the experience of eating a piece of cake will make you feel?
Yes, I know it will feel good, but be specific.
Satisfied? Content? Comforted? Connected with others who are eating it? Loved?
Overeating is often an attempt to find the love you crave and fill the void your are feeling in your heart and soul with food. It is looking in the wrong place to feel satisfied, content, comforted, connected, and loved.
What if you could easily get the feelings you really want from eating that piece of cake without ever having to lift a bite to your mouth? What if the feelings were more delicious than any piece of cake could possibly be? And what if those feelings inspired action that made your wellness goals faster, easier, and more fun to achieve?
Would you be willing to give it a try? Would you be willing to spend just a few minutes a day to get it? Would you be willing to look for and notice the changes you are experiencing so you can keep building on your success?
Would you be willing to let it be that simple?
If so, keep reading!
Now imagine yourself having achieved your wellness goal.
How does that feel? (Remember, be specific and feel it right now!)
It might be something like:
“Being 10 pounds lighter makes me feel confident. It makes me feel attractive. It makes me feel strong and beautiful. It feels invigorating and it makes me want to give my workout my all. It feels satisfying to slip on my jeans and have them be comfortable, and to know that I look good. It feels like being energized and alive. It feels healthy. It feels like confidence in the choices I’m making. It feels like being connected to my Higher Self. It feels like being who I am meant to be. It feels like being relaxed and confident in my body. It feels like appreciation for how hard my body is working on my behalf in ways that take no effort from me. My heart is pumping, my blood is flowing, I am breathing in and out, my immune system and metabolism are functioning beautifully. It feels like appreciation for all the healthy food I have eaten and the workouts I have gotten in, and for how amazingly my body has responded. It feels like satisfaction. It feels like contentment. It feels like love.”
Doesn’t’ that feel delicious? Doesn’t’ that feel way better than you feel when you eat a piece of cake? Doesn’t that feel even better than it felt when you were 10 pounds lighter? Don’t you now know that the apple will taste better and feel better than a piece of cake? Don’t you want to go move your body and give your workout your all?
That’s how easy it is to feel that way right now.
Practice that feeling. And reach for it when you start to feel tempted to give into a craving. Practice it before a workout. Practice it before you eat your healthy meal. Practice it going to sleep every night. Practice it when you wake up.
Can you feel how much easier it is to meet your wellness goals?
Together we can do it!
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