I received an email this morning that is dredging up painful memories of the past. My emotional response has ranged from despair to rage to spite to grief.
And I am grateful for those emotions.
Just because emotions are unpleasant doesn’t make them “bad.” In fact, experiencing the full range of emotions is part of being fully alive.
So I allowed myself to feel them. I punched a pillow and railed. I wept in my husband’s arms.
You cannot fully feel joy if you do not allow yourself to fully feel grief. How can you know love if you have never felt hate?
Many women strive to keep themselves emotionally numb out of fear of feeling “negative” emotions, and in do so you unknowingly keep yourself stuck in the rebound weight-gain cycle.
You may have been taught that your emotions are a liability and not an asset. You might be tempted to think you’re being over-emotional.
You may eat your emotions or stuff them back down. This just creates internal blocks that literally weigh you down.
So I railed, wept, and released.
And I feel cleansed. I feel clarity. And I am more determined than ever.
I can stay stuck in the past, OR I can move forward in alignment with my core values and spiritual beliefs. I can choose a different response.
My focus is my decision.
I could totally use this experience as an excuse to stay in victim energy. My sharing it would generate sympathy, and I’m sure I could get many of your fabulous readers on my side.
But that does not serve me.
No matter how significant the negative event, it is still your choice to focus on it—or not.
This was brought home to me a number of years ago during a conversation with a friend whose husband died unexpectedly while they were getting ready for work. He literally died in her arms.
Not long after, I asked how she was doing. Her response, “I’m having a few bad moments in otherwise good days.”
That struck me not only in the heart, but in the head. If she wasn’t allowing the sudden and traumatic death of her husband to bring her down, than what excuse did I have for responding badly to anything going on in my life?
This is even more powerful when you decide not to judge the painful experiences as “bad.” Pain is an important and valuable part of life. Experiencing it is a part of being fully human.
So today, I have had a few painful moments as part of my glorious day. I decide to fully embrace ALL of my emotions and experiences as valuable in my life. I decide not to use this as an excuse to wallow in self-pity, but to use this as a reason to continue the charge to fully be the best possible version of me.
I totally and completely love and accept myself and all the emotions that I feel. I embrace the valuable emotional guidance I am receiving.
Being at your optimal weight and experiencing wellness and well-being doesn’t mean that you will never experience challenges. It means that you are empowered in how you respond to those challenges. It means is that you see those situations differently and choose your responses rather than just reacting.
And that makes all the difference in the world.
What can you do to begin to acknowledge your feelings, rather than stuffing them back down?
When you stop fighting experiences and judging them as “bad,” and instead open your eyes and hearts to the gifts that are in every moment, you finally begin to receive those gifts.
As Jerry Hicks used to say, “Everything is always working out for me.” No matter what, no matter who, no matter where, Source (God, the Universe, All That Is, Higher coach—whatever works for you) is always on our side providing the experiences that are unfolding perfectly for my—and your—growth.
No matter what you are facing today, it is up to you to take this moment and consciously choose your focus and decide how you want to feel. You can endure it, let it crush you, or decide to thrive.
The experience will not change, but you change your experience of it.
Today, I decide to thrive.
What is your decision?
Together we can do it!
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This is a really powerful post, Hanna. It has energy, it’s raw and full of emotion. It’s human and real and honest. It is your alignment with your authentic self, the fullness of you and all your emotions, that is the gift you offer to those who seek transformation in their relationship with both food and their body. The transparency and genuine okay-ness with who you are is a wonderful model for all those who seek to free themselves from the diet trap. I salute you, Hanna Goss. GO YOU! Jane, Northern Ireland
Thank you so much, Jane! So appreciate your support.
This is a truly valuable post and something for me to remember in the future. We would love to always feel at the top with only positive emotions but as you say it is important to embrace and accept life with its challenges and the emotions that come along with them, should it be pleasant or unpleasant. Thank you for sharing it with all of us 🙂
Thanks very much for commenting and your support. I appreciate you!
I have nominated you for the Shine on award, your blog is truly a gem, keep it up! http://oawritingspoemspaintings.wordpress.com/
Thanks so much for the honor! But this blog has now transferred to LoveYourWaySlim.com. Would love for you to follow me there! Thanks again!
You are a beautiful, strong, powerful woman, and I know you will get through this with flying colors! Know you have friends you can reach out to and lean on. I applaud your decision to move through the feelings rather than away from them. You are an inspiration to me! I love you!!
Thanks so much Julia! I so value and appreciate your support! Thank you for being there for me! I love you, too!
Any time, my friend.