Wellness Tip of the Day
When you are feeling hopeful, content, excited, happy, appreciative, joyful, and loving you are helping create the body you want.
When you are feeling hopeful, content, excited, happy, appreciative, joyful, and loving you are helping create the body you want.
Even if you are lonely, have little or no money, are struggling with your body—you are abundant.
You have an abundance of air to breathe, the abundance of love in your heart, the abundance of being alive in this moment.
While money and gifts are certainly a part of abundance and should be appreciated, there is so much more of life with which to fill our trays. It’s all there waiting for us to look for and allow ourselves to see and receive.
Perhaps you have an abundance of family and friends, or an abundance of time in which to reflect, or an abundance of beauty to admire. You may have an abundance of laughter and excitement, or an abundance of peace and quiet. You may have an abundance of parties and commitments, or an abundance of freedom to live and do as you wish.
These are things that do not cost money and that nobody else can give you. They are there waiting for you to acknowledge—and thus receive.
No matter where you are or what’s going on in your life today, look for and acknowledge your abundance.
Feeling abundant is truly part of the magic of the holidays.
When you feel abundant, the more abundance you are allowing into your life. It is the Law of Attraction in action. This is the foundation principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy.”
So when you acknowledge your abundance, focus on it, and feel it, the more abundance you are able to see and appreciate. The more abundant you feel.
And a significant bonus from feeling abundant is it’s good for your body!
Feeling abundant creates positive anabolic energy that releases endorphins, testosterone, and body supporting hormones that help your body heal, rebuild, and flow with physical energy.
And yes, makes it easier to release excess weight.
Feeling abundant is literally good for you!
What abundance can you find in your life right now? No matter what it is, acknowledge it and let your heart overflow with appreciation. Then consciously tap into the feeling of abundance all year long.
Notice how feeling abundant makes it easier to get the body you want.
Together we can do it!
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Wellness Tip of the Day: Feeling abundant is good for your body. Focus on and appreciate your abundance—opportunities, ideas, love, life.
My blog is moving! To keep following my posts after January 15, you will need to follow my new blog, at LoveYourWaySlim.com. I look forward to continuing the journey with you!
Release stress by seeing yourself as capable, confident, energetic, empowered, and engaged. Harness the power of your self-perception.
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“Stress isn’t something that happens to someone. It’s something someone feels about what’s happening. Your capacity to deal with any outer situation is based on your inner perspective. . . How we see ourselves determines everything.”
There is a lot about the holidays that can impact people’s wellness. One of the biggest culprits is stress.
Holiday stress can come from overeating, or feelings of depression or overwhelment, or challenging relationships, or just too much on your to-do list.
Now I’m going to be perfectly honest and authentic with you.
I’ve been stressed the last couple of weeks.
Oh, it wasn’t the holidays. I’ve learned how to manage getting ready for the holidays in a healthy and balanced way.
None-the-less, for the first time in two years, I found myself stressed and I didn’t listen to my body when it was telling me to slow down. As a result, I’m just now getting over a cold that I had for weeks.
Believe me, the irony of that was not lost on me every day when I was writing my blogs!
The thing is, your wellness and finding balance in your life is never done. You’re not likely get to a place where you can slap your hands together and say, “Woo hoo! I can check wellness off my list of things to do. Thank goodness I’ll never have any more stress again.”
New things will come along that you have to make adjustments for and that require re-finding your balance. That is part of the evolution of life.
So what threw me into serious stress mode?
It was taking my business to the next level by launching my new brand and website last week, getting ready to launch a new coaching program on January 7, and planning my first ever Love Your Way Slim beach-side retreat in April.
What I forgot is that stress is not created by the situation I am in. What I forgot is how powerful I am.
We are the creators of the limitations—and the success—that we experience. When we are stressed, we are not accurately seeing ourselves, what we are capable of, what we deserve, and the support we are receiving from the Universe.
When I was seeing myself as overworked, limited, tired, and overwhelmed, I was not seeing myself accurately.
My coach was able to help me shift my perspective slightly so that I could see myself as capable, confident, energetic, and empowered. She reminded me to ask for the support I needed, and to see the support I already had. And that slight change in perspective made all the difference in the world.
Not only did I immediately feel emotionally better, but I began feeling physically better, too. All of a sudden, I was able to see how to work in the rest and self-care I had been neglecting, and my to-do list didn’t seem so overwhelming.
The only thing that was different was my perception of who I was in relationship to what was happening.
We are all so much more powerful than most of us realize. Huge changes can be made with just a slight shift in how we see ourselves.
While it took my body reminding me of this—and to practice what I preach—the great news is I have the tools and have been able to get my body back in balance.
And even better news is I didn’t fall back into old patterns of reaching for comfort food or overeating.That is a huge win!
Now, I know I’m not the only one who has struggled with stress the last few weeks.
You may be having a really hard time right now. And the idea that your stress is a result of limited self-thinking and faulty beliefs may sound like tosh.
But the Truth is, Who you really are is capable, confident, energetic, empowered, and engaged. The key is shifting your perspective just enough so that you can begin to believe it.
One way to reach for a new thought and perspective is to quiet your mind. Even taking a 5-minute mental break can make a huge difference in how easily you can see solutions to your situation.
Make quieting your mind—even for 5 minutes—a priority over the next few days.
Do this by:
Even if all you can manage is shutting the door and actually going to the bathroom by yourself, that can be enough to help clear your mind.
Then remind yourself that you are capable, confident, energetic, empowered, and engaged. Harness the power of your self-perception.
I know 5 minutes doesn’t sound like much, but consistently quieting your mind for even just a few minutes a day—and then reminding yourself of Who you really are—can have a profound impact on your physical and emotional health.
When you feel better, you’re better able to take care of your family—and be the version of you that your family actually wants to be around!
Make it a priority today to take a few minutes to quiet your mind and remember Who you really are. What difference does that make in your stress-level? What difference does that make in how much you enjoy your holidays?
Together we can do it!
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Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you” and really mean it?
If you are like most women, this feels like a big fat lie.
I know.
It wasn’t too many years ago that I literally could not look myself in the eye and say anything positive. All I could see were my flaws. When I tried saying positive affirmations about myself or my body they would literally stick in my throat because they were such lies.
Wow I’ve come a long way.
Today I love my body—and myself!—and I love my life more than I thought possible.
Now I know that to truly open up my heart to others, I had to learn to love myself first.
Far from being the selfish act I thought it was, self-love gives you the energy and empowerment to be more self-less.
And it is the key for getting the body that you want. Changing your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs is like spiritual liposuction.
As the Law of Attraction says, “As within, so without.”
It was only when I did the inner work of changing my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about myself, what I was capable of, and what I deserved, that I found the solutions for me to not only lose the weight, but to easily keep it off now for several years.
While a powerful exercise is to look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I love you,” many women can’t do it long enough to see significant changes because it feels like such a fib.
So start small.
Stand in front of the mirror for 3 minutes and focus on at least three things you can appreciate about yourself.
Maybe you can focus on how much you appreciate:
Begin practicing appreciating these parts of you until you can look in the mirror and say:
And then add three new things about yourself to appreciate, and work up to loving them. Keep going until you can honestly look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you.”
One of the things that shifted me from self-loathing to self-love is that I realized that it was not only OK to love myself, but was who I was meant to be. It was when I finally “got” that Source (God, the Universe, Higher Self—whatever works for you) not only loves me, but absolutely adores me and sees my body as perfect.
Who am I to contradict All-That-Is?
If I am loved, that must mean that I am loveable and worthy of self-love. It was time for me to appreciate who I am, and the unique gifts and perspective that I bring to this growing and expanding Universe.
Just as I am loved and adored by All-That-Is, you are loved and adored—exactly as you are. You are so worthy. You are beautiful. You add irreplaceable value to this world.
What are those things about yourself that you can agree with Source are worth appreciating? What can you do today to acknowledge and begin expressing love for those things about yourself? Look for those things. Acknowledge those things. Celebrate those things.
And then watch how you begin to see–and treat–yourself differently. Watch for how your body begins to change. Watch for the body you want.
Together we can do it!
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Wellness Tip of the Day: To change on the outside, you first need to focus on the inside, changing negative thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. You are worthy!
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Many of you may be hitting the road over the next few days to celebrate Christmas or New Year’s with family or friends.
Travel can be one of the hardest times for people to maintain their health and wellness. Throw in holiday stress, and many give up all together.
Instead, you may fall into the pies, cookies, and other holiday treats, resolving to lose weight come January 2.
But how’s that worked out for you in the past?
Chances are you started out strong enough. You may have joined a gym or begun an exercise program. Maybe you beat the odds and kept it going for a month or two—or even met your weight-loss goal.
But then the weight crept back on and here you are at the holidays resolving to lose weight—again.
What if you could make some simple changes now that would improve your chances of successfully losing the weight—and keeping it off—in the New Year?
What if:
Many people are so focused on the time that they don’t have that they miss all the small opportunities they do have to work physical and emotional wellness into their day.
Here are some practical tips that will help you maintain your wellness while traveling—or while dealing with holiday stress—and give you a head-start on getting the body you want come January.
Eat Only What You Love
Let’s face it. Not everything is calorie worthy.
If it’s not curl your toes and satisfy your soul delicious—don’t eat it.
Be discerning about what you are going to indulge in.
You may feel like its “polite” to eat some of everything, but all that’s doing is keeping you from truly enjoying the foods that you love—and potentially packing on pounds. Most people aren’t paying that much attention to what you are putting on your plate, so pick the one or two items that you truly love and would feel deprived if you weren’t eating.
Then really savor them. You’ll discover that it’s the first few bites that are packed with the most flavor. When you truly focus on and enjoy those first bites you are more satisfied and can keep your portions small.
And if Aunt Matilda complains that you aren’t eating her casserole, tell her you really want to savor it and pack up a serving to eat later–or not!
This is your body! You are empowered to choose what you put into it.
Scope Out Restaurants
More and more families are heading out for holiday meals. Whether you lean towards big chains, or like to sample the local cuisine, the Internet is a great resource.
If you can, check out the on-line menu before you head to dinner so you have planned what you’re going to order. This way, you’ll be less swayed by passing entrees, delicious smells, the bread basket, and a growling tummy to order something less healthy when the waiter finally arrives.
And don’t be afraid to ask for dishes to be prepared in a way that meets your needs. You are paying for the meal, and this is your body. Ask for what you need.
Also, decide how much you are going to eat beforehand. Then ask for a box at the start of the meal to put away the extras, so you can then focus on enjoying the meal and company without eating more than you intended.
Prepare for a Snack Attack
Chances are you will not make a great choice if you reach for a snack at one of the gas stations your stopped at on your trip. And one of the worst things you can do is not eat all day in preparation for a big meal. You are guaranteed that you will overeat and physically pay the price later.
Instead, plan ahead and bring some snacks from home.
These could include:
Eating small, frequent meals throughout the day will keep your energy level high and hunger at bay without ruining your appetite for the main event.
Drink Lots of Water
You need a lot of extra water while traveling. Bringing a refillable bottle is an easy solution. If you don’t like the taste of the tap water, buy bottled water.
If you forget your reusable bottle, just buy a bottle of water and refill it.
And skip–or if that will make you feel deprived–go easy on the alcohol, which just dehydrates you further and will result in a wicked hangover the next day.
Pack Your Walking Shoes
You don’t have to get in a full-blown workout to get the benefits of moving your body. Even 10 minutes can boost energy, and make it easier to tolerate Uncle Oliver telling that same story for the billionth time.
Ideas include:
Bonus! Most of these workouts can be done in your pajamas if your workout clothes didn’t make it in the bag.
Getting in some kind of physical activity is particularly important if you are going to be spending a lot of time sitting in planes, trains, or automobiles.
Catch Your Zs
One of the keys for making sure you rapidly rebound after your trip is to get adequate rest, which can be a challenge in a strange bed hearing noises that you’re not used to, or if you have bright lights peaking through your curtains.
Prepare for these problems by packing an eye pillow or mask, ear plugs, and downloading an app on your cell phone that plays ambient noise, like a fan or rainfall.
You know what adequate rest means for you, so do your best to go to bed at a time that will enable you to get the sleep you need.
And if you do find that you ate more than you planned, heeded the call of a holiday treat, or needed the sleep more than moving your body, don’t beat yourself up.
To make your New Year’s resolution a reality this year, you only need to be consistent, not perfect.
Together we can do it!
My blog is moving to my new website LoveYourWaySlim.com. To keep following my posts after January 15, you will need to follow my new blog. I look forward to continuing the journey with you!
Wellness Tip of the Day: Life stressors aren’t going to go away. The only way to deal with them positively is to eat right and exercise anyway.
My blog is moving to my new website LoveYourWaySlim.com. To keep following my posts after January 15, you will need to follow my new blog. I look forward to continuing the journey with you!
Many people are emotionally reeling from the events that happened Friday in Connecticut.
In yesterday’s blog, I shared my deeply personal story about the self-healing power of forgiveness—even if we belief the actions of someone are unforgivable.
Today, I wanted to share a blog written by my coach, Kendra Thornbury, that outlines how to move forward and create meaning during this challenging time.
While these steps are particularly powerful right now, many of these are the same steps you will need to take to clear any internal blocks—including those that are keeping you from getting the body you want.
There’s a deep cry that will likely go unheard and get lost in the reactions to the shooting.
It’s the cry of the shooter. As horid as his actions were, to not look to the cause of such actions isirresponsible and, frankly, a disgrace to the lives that were lost.
It’s imperative to recognize that what transpired is an outcome of a systemic problem. The awful outcry is a demonstration of fear based beliefs gone totally out of control.
How do we move forward? How can we create meaning from this?
It begins with accepting responsibility for how we each play a part in creating our world.
This means…
It starts with you.
1) Eradicate the violence toward yourself.
The truth is that most of us commit acts of violence toward our selves almost every day.
Commit to be a co-creator of peace by stopping any and all acts of violence toward yourself!
First, GET REAL about how you are violent within yourself.
What acts of violence do you carry out toward yourself each day?
What critical, condemning thoughts do you repeat about yourself?
What habits do you allow that are less than loving (if not abusive) to your body?
What choices to you make that suck the life from your soul?
Then, DECIDE you are worth more.
Lastly, CHOOSE to replace the old beliefs & habits with loving and peaceful ones. Nothing less will do!
2) Integrate Your Shadow.
We all have parts.
I am devoted, on purpose and generous.
I am also self-serving, lazy and protective.
Our complexity and dimensions are vast. Yet we all walk around pretending to be “perfect”, keeping up the persona we believe we need to keep in order to belong.
When parts of you that you deem as being unworthy go unacknowledged or unexpressed, they go “underground”.
(These can be parts of you that you are embarrassed or ashamed of.)
What happens is that they become unconscious, shadow aspects. And rather than going away (which you are trying to make them do), they end up running you.
What you run from runs you.
My appeal to you is to get radically honest about your shadow parts and learn to accept and integrate them. As Debbie Ford says, shadows teach us that there is gold to be mined in every experience.
3) Make It Sacred To Feel.
The oppression of emotion DOES NOT WORK. Our emotional intelligence system has been relegated to a weak place. We’ve collectively dismissed emotions, resulting in unconconscious and destructive behaviors. (The Shadow)
It’s natural to feel. Yet every day we deny feelings exist.
My invitation to you is to make it sacred to feel. Choose to hold emotions with reverence and respect.
This is what I’ve done. And in the last 5 days I’ve allowed a spectrum of emotions to move through me. Without this, I would go crazy. I would be boiling just beneath the surface, vulnerable to burst at any unpredictable moment.
I surrender to my feelings and let them inform me of a richer reality that does not exist when I pretend and numb out.
After you choose to make your feelings sacred, learn how to be with, express and manage them in a healthy and constructive way.
4) Own Your Projections.
Here’s the “not-so-pretty” way of getting to the point here. People are barfing their stuff on each other all the time.
Mostly we believe it’s “justified” because we feel hurt or victimized by what another says or does. But really, it’s time to grow up and recognize that NO ONE is responsible for our reality.
The truth is that you are powerful and you are the creator.
So stop making others’ responsible for how you feel and what results you get and take charge of reality.
5) Forgive.
It’s time.
Built up resentment and anger is toxic.
The wounds. The betrayal. What he did. What she didn’t do. How you were wronged. The love you didn’t get. The hurts that happened 10, 20, 30 years ago.
Let it go.
Receive the lesson.
And let it go.
6) Love More.
It all comes down to love.
The challenges I pose to you above are ultimately acts of self-love.
And in loving yourself, you will naturally and readily extend the unconditional and heart-centered attention that our people and planet are in such desperate need of right now.
Kendra E Thornbry, MA, is an international highly acclaimed coach, spiritual guide, speaker, facilitator, humanitarian and entrepreneur. She’s on the cutting edge of spiritual thought and conscious business practice, blazing a new trail & wealth revolution.
She has served as a board member for the Women’s Business Exchange, Woman’s Way Red Lodge and has been President for the Washington Chapter of the International Coaching Federation.
A personal growth junkie, Kendra’s latest adventures in challenging the status quo include packing her belongings in storage and travelling for 16 months (and still counting).
Labels aside, she considers herself a human being simply doing her best to walk a path of authenticity and integrity while making a much-needed difference.
You can sign up for Kendra’s blog at www.kendrathornbury.com
My blog is moving to my new website LoveYourWaySlim.com. To keep following my posts after January 15, you will need to follow my new blog. I look forward to continuing the journey with you!