If you are like most women, this feels like a big fat lie.
It wasn’t too many years ago that I literally could not look myself in the eye and say anything positive. All I could see were my flaws. When I tried saying positive affirmations about myself or my body they would literally stick in my throat because they were such lies.
Wow I’ve come a long way.
Today I love my body—and myself!—and I love my life more than I thought possible.
Now I know that to truly open up my heart to others, I had to learn to love myself first.
Far from being the selfish act I thought it was, self-love gives you the energy and empowerment to be more self-less.
And it is the key for getting the body that you want. Changing your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs is like spiritual liposuction.
As the Law of Attraction says, “As within, so without.”
It was only when I did the inner work of changing my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about myself, what I was capable of, and what I deserved, that I found the solutions for me to not only lose the weight, but to easily keep it off now for several years.
While a powerful exercise is to look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I love you,” many women can’t do it long enough to see significant changes because it feels like such a fib.
So start small.
Stand in front of the mirror for 3 minutes and focus on at least three things you can appreciate about yourself.
Maybe you can focus on how much you appreciate:
- Your eyes and being able to see.
- Your smile that transforms your face.
- Your legs that carry you through your day.
Begin practicing appreciating these parts of you until you can look in the mirror and say:
- I love my eyes.
- I love my smile.
- I love my legs.
And then add three new things about yourself to appreciate, and work up to loving them. Keep going until you can honestly look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you.”
One of the things that shifted me from self-loathing to self-love is that I realized that it was not only OK to love myself, but was who I was meant to be. It was when I finally “got” that Source (God, the Universe, Higher Self—whatever works for you) not only loves me, but absolutely adores me and sees my body as perfect.
Who am I to contradict All-That-Is?
If I am loved, that must mean that I am loveable and worthy of self-love. It was time for me to appreciate who I am, and the unique gifts and perspective that I bring to this growing and expanding Universe.
Just as I am loved and adored by All-That-Is, you are loved and adored—exactly as you are. You are so worthy. You are beautiful. You add irreplaceable value to this world.
What are those things about yourself that you can agree with Source are worth appreciating? What can you do today to acknowledge and begin expressing love for those things about yourself? Look for those things. Acknowledge those things. Celebrate those things.
And then watch how you begin to see–and treat–yourself differently. Watch for how your body begins to change. Watch for the body you want.
Together we can do it!