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Wellness Tip of the Weekend: Making your wellness and well-being a top priority gives you the energy and stamina to take care of others.
Goss Coaching 
Tending to myself brings verbal attack and misunderstanding from others at times…more than once in the past week. I feel stomach tension even today, because I was “attacked” for trying to learn and respect boundaries for myself. It takes energy and stamina to have boundaries, after so long without them. So I hope this gets better soon!
Congratulations for setting some needed boundaries. You are right. It’s not always easy, and you get major kudos for making this change. Yes, if you have had patterns in place for a long time, and are suddenly change them, it can upset things. But keep moving forward. What do you think you could do that would help them understand what your needs are? Sending you positive thoughts!
One thing I’ve tried is telling myself (and anyone else who would care enough to ask what *I need*…instead of what *they need*) is that I’m not “withdrawing” (their accusal) I’m “containing.” Generally, people accuse me of “withdrawing” or “being harsh” when I say “no” to them. They don’t understand my need for space to attain self-control. My emotions are incredibly intense and hard to contain…and when I try, people often see it as me being “harsh and rude” or “withdrawing.” So I’ve got to learn that my need for space is good, especially when my nerves are bad. But getting others to understand that is a struggle. I think what I’m learning at this late date is “self-control”…but “controlling” types: don’t like my effort at “self-control.” (Why would they want me to “self-control” when they are so willing and able to control me and would do a much better job?!) Could I be on the right track here? *Thank you* for the encouragement.
Absolutely! Cheering you on!
I love your pages and your form of self-expression, it is a pleasure to have you share your gifts through your pages Thank you. I have nominated you for blog of the Year please visit my page Blog of the year awards and nominations Thank you! Revised
Posted on December 9, 2012
Thank you so much! I am deeply honored, but am not able to fulfill the requirements. I will, however, share the nomination and your fabulous page on my twitter page. Thanks again! I deeply value you and your site, as well. Hanna