Having your partner shower you with love and attention, or showering your partner with love and attention?
Most people would agree that while it is delicious to receive another’s love, it is even more exquisite to give love.
How much love are you giving your body?
If you are like most women, you are withholding love. You are demeaning and hateful in what you say and think about your body. You are neglectful—and downright harmful—in your actions.
And in many cases, you are demanding that your body prove its love for you by defying the laws of nature.
When it cannot meet your unreasonable demands, you feel betrayed, let down, and frustrated.
How long would you stay healthy in a relationship where your partner treated you that way?
When you look at your body, how much does it physically reflect how you treat it, and what you say and think about it?
An important step in creating the body you want is recognizing that what you have going with your body is a relationship in every sense of the word. In fact, your relationship with your body is the longest—and most important—of your life. There is no reconciling from that divorce!
Many people have a negative catabolic relationship with their body. At best, they ignore it and at worst they are constantly critical, neglectful, and downright abusive in how they treat it.
The good news is your body has never stopped loving you. Every cell in your body is giving everything it’s got for you. In fact, every cell is giving it’s life for you. Your body is absolutely and completely devoted to you.
It’s not your body that needs to change in this relationship. It is you.
It is you that needs to start providing some love and support to your body. It is you that needs to treat your body as you wish to be treated by your partner.
The first step is to decide that you want to show up differently in this relationship. Examine your reasons why you want to make peace with your body.
Then begin doing what you would do in any relationship to repair the damage.
- Shift the words you use when examining, or talking to or about your body. Instead of being critical, look for things to compliment.
- Look for all the ways your body is supporting you, instead of focusing on all the ways it’s letting you down.
- Become more aware of how it responds to what you’re feeding it, and begin to choose more nourishing foods.
- Pay attention to how much you move it—is it enough or too much? It will tell you what it needs if you will begin to listen.
- Take the time for self-care. Meditation, getting a massage, taking a luxurious bath, sitting quietly with a cup of tea–all of these are great ways to tune in to what your body is trying to communicate. Listen and respond.
Trust that your body wants nothing more than to have a positive, loving relationship with you, and will knock itself out to respond to this change in relationship.
But if the abuse has been going on for some time, be patient. While the changes will begin happening immediately, you may not see the difference for a little bit. It took time to get where you are and it will take a little time to get to where you want to be.
What would be the benefits of changing your relationship with your body? How different would you feel if you treated your body the way you want to be treated? What difference would that make to your health and well-being?
Together we can do it!
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Don’t wait till Jan 2 to take inspired action. Start creating the body—and life—you want today