While I’m in New York City over the next few days, I’m sharing a four-part series on going from Halloween to New Year’s with balance, grace, and fulfillment.
When I was a kid, the time between Halloween and New Year’s was magical.
What could be more fun than everyone playing dress-up and strangers giving you a bucket-load of candy that you ate for weeks?
Or having days off from school filled with delicious treats?
Or sharing a feast with family and friends?
Whether it was Halloween, Thanksgiving, or Christmas, overeating was the primary theme.
While I still love the holidays, somewhere along the way they also became fraught with stress, unmet expectations, challenging family dynamics, loneliness, and bingeing that resulted in self-loathing.
I would often start the New Year with a physical and emotional hangover that might last till spring.
This changed when I realized that I had control—not over other people, but over how I responded, what I put in my mouth, and what I did—and didn’t do. My reacting as a victim or with conflict truly was a choice.
Making different choices and having a different experience over the holidays takes awareness, planning, and celebrating the smallest victories.
And the rewards are so worth it!
Over the next four days, I’ll be sharing a series of simple steps that you can take that will help you get through the holidays with balance and grace. Do each step, and you will be starting the New Year with the body—and life—you want!
Step One: Awareness.
Today, look at your past experiences. What are the things that have sent you down a difficult road during previous holidays?
- Maybe it’s the extra temptation of all the treats that are around from Halloween to New Year’s?
- Maybe it’s the pressure and expectations of family that you can’t live up to?
- Maybe it’s your expectations that everything has to be magical and perfect—for yourself or for others?
- Maybe it’s a difficult relationship?
- Maybe it’s feeling alone, even when you are in a crowd?
- Maybe it’s the overwhelming to-do list that you don’t feel supported in getting done?
Whatever those things are that knock you for a loop, write them down.
Then ask yourself these questions, and write down the answers.
- What do the holidays mean to you?
- What are the thoughts, feelings, and beliefs that come up for you when you think about the holidays?
- What values are you trying to honor?
- How do you want to feel?
- How do I want to be on January 2nd, using the present tense?
Right here and now, make the commitment to make the necessary changes to love your way through the holidays.
Tomorrow we’ll look at how to plan for the holidays you want!
Together we can do it!
The hardest part for me is in making that choice and reaffirming it when everyone around me is choosing stress and indulgence.
Absolutely. That’s the challenge–and the opportunity. The potential is to maintain your power so you become the positive example for others. Keep practicing. You will get better at maintaining your energy.
I am glad I don’t celebrate Halloween it is not so big here. No sweets, but healthy fruit and veg for me! 🙂
Sounds yummy–and healthy! Thanks for commenting.
I don’t drink and I sometimes have difficulty convincing well-intended friends that I really don’t drink. I can end up feeling like I should, or that there is something wrong with me. . .after all what’s the big deal with a little glass of wine. I find myself avoiding social situations where I have to explain myself with regard to my Perrier and lime! Good series. I am looking forward to reading more. As always, thank you for your thoughtful posts.
I dont drink much either, so know the pressure is real. How would you answer the second series of questions? What can you do to change how you react to that pressure and honor your values and decisions? Thanks for sharing.
Wear a Rudolph nose and tell people I am already hammered? (just kidding) I will have to contemplate the second series of questions and I think “values” and “honor” are the operative words here.
Absolutly. How can you honor yourself?
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It’s definitely the extra temptation of treats that I find so difficult to resist! Great post, I look forward to parts 2-4.
Great awareness! Thanks for reading and commenting! Much appreciation.