I have a lot on my to-do list today as we are hosting dinner for friends this evening.
In the past, my default setting has been to get stressed. To get so focused on all that I had to do that not only did I become harsh with myself, but I was sharp and unpleasant to the very people who were helping with the preparations. (Sorry about that honey!)
I’m getting much better at steadily moving ahead to achieve realistic goals with ease and grace. I’m seeing the power of focusing on being gentle and kind in my thoughts and words–to myself and others–and eeking out every ounce of pleasure that can be found in each moment, from the preparations to the time with friends (and dogs as this will be a gathering of all of our Keeshond companions, as well.)
People often feel like they don’t have time to be mindful and relaxed when faced with a deadline.
But why does feeling horrible automatically equate with being more productive?
What I’m finding is that moving forward deliberately instead of rushing, and focusing on how I want to feel in the moment—rather than just defaulting to how I have just always reacted—certainly does not take away from my productivity. It actually seems to help me accomplish more than I planned.
Even if how much I get done is the same, it sure feels a heck of a lot better!
So tell your inner task master to ease up. Put the incredible power of your attention on what you are doing in the moment—and enjoy the heck out of that. Find and feel the confidence that everything that needs to get done, will.
And then see how much fun you can have throughout the process of getting all the preparatory work done. The fun doesn’t have to begin the moment your friend’s push the doorbell. The fun you have getting ready also makes the time you have with friends that much richer.
What can you do to practice being gentle with yourself, moving with ease and grace, and softening your thoughts and words? How does that help you achieve your goals? How much better does that feel?
Together we can do it!
Photo by Hansje Gold-Krueck
Great advice! I actually have a post it on my desk that says “be gentle with yourself” as I find it’s easier to be gentle with others at times than with oneself. I love the photo of Willow and Buffy by the way 🙂 So cute…
Yes, being gentle with yourself is the true test! Thanks so much for commenting! Appreciate you!
What beautiful dogs – sigh 🙂
Thank you! We love and adore them as if they were our children.
Gorgeous dogs! Being gentle with myself is something I’m slowly learning to achieve, it’s been a fault of mine for a long time. Needless to say, my husband is thankful for the results 😉
Thank you! And Congratulations for learning to be gentle with yourself. The ripple effects are powerful! Thanks for commenting!