Take a Restraining Order Out On Yourself

How long would you want to hang around someone who was constantly critical of how you looked, what you did, what you said, or how you acted?

Would they be the friend you went to for support when you were down, or to celebrate your success? Let’s hope not!

Loving support is about building you up, cheering you on, and having someone who believes in their heart that you can do anything that you set your mind on achieving.

Now look at how you treat yourself. Are you critical and demanding or loving and supportive?

If you are like most women, you say things to yourself that you would never say to a friend or loved one.

I’ve watched women give themselves a little slap along with a bit of self-criticism. “I should have thought of that.” Slap. “I’m so sassy.” Slap. “I can’t believe I did that.” Slap.

Many verbally abuse themselves for things like not being able to maintain a positive attitude in the face of real challenges, being less than perfect, and not looking the way fashion magazines say they should look.

In relationships where someone is verbally or physically abusing another, a court will step in and issue a restraining order to the keep the other person from inflicting any more harm.

It’s time to take a restraining order out on yourself.

Begin to ease up on the demands and criticisms you direct towards yourself. Look for and celebrate the signs of the progress you are making rather than the distance you haven’t yet traveled. Catalog and have confidence in the things you do well.

Treat yourself as you would treat another.

What can you do to draft yourself as an ally to support you in achieving your goals? How does changing how you treat yourself alter how others treat you? How much better does loving and supporting yourself feel?

Together we can do it!

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29 thoughts on “Take a Restraining Order Out On Yourself

  1. In the last couple of years, I have tried to counter this negative thought process. Since we are spiritual beings having a human experience, I found that acknowledging that I had a human moment and let it go, works for me.

  2. You are such an inspiration, this is so easy to push to the bottom of the to-do list we all carry around! Thank you!

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  4. Sage advice. It’s so easy to rush in and condemn ourselves. I’ve always loved that quote from Buddha: “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”

  5. Thank you for reminding us (me!) to focus on what IS working, rather than how far we have to go. A simple truth that bears repeating… I need to hear it! Thank you again, so much. Gina

  6. This is great!! Too often we waste precious time with negative energy instead of positive thoughts. Thank you for the positive energy.

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