While those words are true, I would have preferred that I had kept them to myself rather than speak them to my husband, as I did last night.
I’m pretty sure he’d like to be doing the workouts with me, too. Something that, at least at this point, is not possible because he has some health challenges going on. And he’s rocking the treadmill and swimming workouts that he is doing, which are much kinder to his body.
But I’m not the first spouse to wish their partners were in a different physical place and I won’t be the last.
Often, when people I work with are starting to see results from a wellness program, one of the things they say is how frustrated they are because their spouse or partner really needs to be doing this, too—and won’t.
It’s normal for people to get a little evangelical about eating plans and workouts that are working for them. I’ve certainly been dogmatic about it in the past. But telling people what they “should” do does not work.
People have to find their own reason Why they want to be healthier, and they have to find their own way.
What does sway people is results. I tell my clients that the best way to inspire their significant others to take their wellness seriously is to show them. When people around you start to see the changes, they begin to believe it’s possible for them, too.
And this is true about life. One of the first steps in creating the world that you want to see is letting go of focusing on what others “should” be doing and start focusing on doing the work you need to do to be the best possible version of you. And then let the power of your results demonstrate how others can do it, too.
What are you doing today to create a healthy and happy life? What vision of you can you reach for that will inspire others to seek it for themselves?
Together we can do it!