Whatever you’re thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you’re worrying, you are planning. When you’re appreciating you are planning. What are you planning?
Abraham
I used to be a worrier. It’s not clear how I came to the conclusion that to ward off catastrophe, I needed to hold the problem close in my mind, but that’s what I truly believed. My thoughts were an endless stream of judgment and fear. I practiced worry so much that I was really good at it.
It’s exhausting just to recall it.
Moving beyond that was a process of desire and persistence. I knew that life was supposed to feel better than it was—had to feel better than that awful place—and I wanted to find the way. That desire led me on a quest to find out how. Each book that I read and teacher that I found led me closer and closer to understanding the answer.
When I “got” that my worry was literally like planning a future event and bringing me more things to worry about, I felt panic. I was so good at worry that those thoughts came easily. I didn’t want more of that! The idea that I held the responsibility for my own life and happiness was so overwhelming that I literally had to disregard it.
But you can’t unknow something completely.
Slowly and surely I began shifting my thoughts towards what I wanted, and letting go of control. It took time, persistence, and energy, just like exercising your body takes time, persistence, and energy. It is a process.
Now I am in a much better place where I love and appreciate life and I feel good much of the time. But I know that I’m far from—and will never get to—having it all figured out, and can clap my hands together and proclaim myself, “Done.”
I know this because I have been seeking long enough to watch my mentors and their teachings grow and evolve. I know this because our spirits are eternal, which means an endless opportunity to expand and grow.
No matter where you are, your understanding, love, and joy always has the potential to grow.
Which means just relax. Don’t stress about it—anything really. Slow and steady is all you need to move yourself forward. Just practice focusing more on what you want, forgive yourself when you don’t, and strive to appreciate life moment-to-moment.
Do that, and you will be creating the life of your dreams.
Together we can do it!
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Hi Hanna…It is quite the process I must say, but the challenge to over come is exhilerating in so many ways… I am so grateful we are eternal beings for my quest towards betterment will forever be a part of who I am…Thanks for these words….VK
What’s better than life getting better and better? Not much! Thanks as always for the comments!
So there is light at the end of the tunnel? I am a worrier also. Everything you described is me. I hope for the best, but prepare myself for the worst for everything even if there isn’t a need to yet. Glad to hear it can be changed. Thanks for the post 🙂
Thanks for commenting. Know the persistence is absolutely worth it! You can and will get there! Hanna
You are so right Hanna. I ” learnt” worrying from my Dad. And from my childhood,I developed the underlying belief that worrying made me more serious and thus somehow superior to other folks who did not worry! I held onto this belief for decades…..
One really needs to flex one’s mental sinews to dig out such limiting beliefs, look at them under a spotlight prior to releasing them.
Cheers
Shakti
Thanks, Shakti!
Truly inspiring! Thank you for sharing.
Peace and love,
Tammy
Thanks, Tammy! I appreciating your comments!
Worry is so consistently pointless, and yet it is also insidious. I think it’s so effective in keeping us stuck because of the principle of “negative reinforcement.” Somewhere in our brains we believe that because we worried about something, it didn’t happen, when actually all it did was make our blood pressure soar, our stress hormones elevate, and keep us from focusing on the outcomes we DO want. Thank you so much for this wonderful blog that reminds me of all these things I sometimes forget!
You are absolutely right! “All it did” was damage our body, mind, and spirit, which is a pretty hefty price to pay. Thanks for your comments! I appreciate you and am sending you lots of positive thoughts!
Thank you again! Appreciate all the positive thoughts and support!
You always have them!