What Did You Choose?

Often people think, “When I lose weight, get a better job, get past this stressful event, have a more supportive partner, etc., then I can be the person I am meant to be.”

But if we spend all of our time waiting for the people, events, and situations of our lives to change, we will always be waiting to take flight, live up to our potential, and live the life of our dreams.

What has to change is you. What has to change is how you think about yourself, what you deserve, and what you are capable of. And the change has to begin right now, right where you are.

What are the values you hold most dear? What is your relationship to All-That-Is (God, Source, the Universe, Higher Coach—whatever works for you)? What are your priorities in life? What are your gifts and talents?

Does being overweight change Who that person is? Does being in a job or situation or relationship that you don’t enjoy?

No matter what you are going through, you are no less valuable as a person.

How well are you showing up in how you wash the dishes? In your employment? In how you relate to a stranger? In how you relate to the person you love the most? Is it consistent? Are you being who you want to be? Are you being Who you truly are?

If not, what small thing can you do today to show up in all aspects of your life as Who you truly are? What difference does that make in your experience? What difference does that make to the people around you?

Use each moment to remember who you truly are, and then choose to be that person.

Together we can do it!

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What’s the Right Mindset for Losing Weight?

One of the push-pulls that I’m feeling in my life right now is surrendering and allowing the power of All-That-Is to work its magic in my life, and setting specific and measurable goals and diligently moving towards those. I have coaches in both camps.

What if both are true—at least for me? This feels like one of those dichotomies in life, such Yin-Yang, Dark-Light, and Good-Evil. This is Surrender-Focus.

To paraphrase Abraham, the perfect mindset in life is simultaneously being content and eager for more.

Where I feel this most is on the topic of my body and optimal wellness. I love and appreciate my body just as it is, and marvel at how hard it’s working to stay in balance and manage everything I do and put into it. While I am strong, and relatively fit and healthy, at the same time, I want to be stronger, fitter, and healthier, and I believe that I’ll look and feel better if I’m leaner.

I fully believe the more I focus on what is right with my body, the more I consciously tap into the Foundation Principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy,” otherwise known as the Law of Attraction, and create more strength, fitness, and wellness.

While there are some people who can fully utilize this principle to intuitively eat and move their bodies to create their version of optimal wellness, I also have long-held contradictory beliefs about the value of planning, nutrition, and exercise. Past experiences where I both used focus to improve my body, and also relaxed my focus on diet and exercise and gained weight also plays a role in how successful I would be at totally surrendering to create optimal wellness.

Since I—along with many people—have these existing beliefs, it seems wise to tap into the power of both surrender and focus. But how do you do that?

Accept where you are—letting go of judging where we are physically as good or bad is challenging, but incredibly powerful. There truly is only where you are and where you want to be. Practicing that mindset releases destructive catabolic energy that will actually hamper your progress towards your idea of optimal wellness.

Act out of love—Loving yourself enough to feed your body high-energy foods and move regularly is a powerful motivator. Also loving Source (God, the Universe, All-That-Is, Higher-Coach—whatever works for you) and recognizing that your body is a gift to be taken care of can help you both surrender and focus.

Set goals that feel good—pay attention to the emotion that the goals you are setting generate. Is it positive or negative? If it’s positive (i.e. excited, inspired, eager), think of that as a green light to move forward. If it’s negative (i.e. fear, pessimism, dread), recognize that’s a signal to rethink why you want to achieve optimal wellness.

Make it fun—what’s the best exercise for losing weight? The one that you will do consistently and actually enjoy. What can you do to make eating healthy and moving your body fun?

Count your successes—document and praise yourself for what you are doing well and let go of where you are falling short.

Know that when you ask it is given—this is a foundation of so many spiritual and religious practices. The key is to stop asking and being fearful that you can’t achieve your goals and instead find a way to tap into your faith that the Universe is on your side and is supporting you in achieving your goals.

Appreciate where you are in the journey—so often we believe our life will be better once we meet our goals. But in truth, it is not the achieving of a goal that improves your life, it is allowing yourself to feel better and enjoy life right now.

As you surrender and focus on success you build positive momentum that will be like a tidal wave moving you towards your goals.

Together we can do it!

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Don’t You Love That?

As they get older, people tend to find a routine that is comfortable. They’ve identified what they like and what they don’t, and primarily stick with the ideas, beliefs, people, and experiences they know and enjoy. They begin to draw a boundary around themselves and automatically reject anything new.

This is when it’s easy to get caught up in living a comfortable life and forget Who you really are. You can begin living life on autopilot.

But the whole point of life is to expand and grow. It’s setting your sights on something new and using the power of your desire to literally pull Source Energy to and through you to create a brand new thought, perspective, or experience that is unique to you. And as you get your bearings in this new place, you can then look around for something new to ignite a desire within you.

That feeling of exhilaration is literally life-force! It’s the constructive anabolic-energy that helps our bodies heal, rebuild, and flow with physical energy.

This doesn’t mean that you need to go jump out of an airplane or do something extreme, unless that is what you want to do. It’s just as effective—and for most people, actually more so—to just reach for something new that feels good.

While it can feel exhilarating to jump for something that scares you silly, there is still forward momentum in continually reaching for what you enjoy. The key is just to reach.

Be Curious

 “I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”

Albert Einstein

One way to reach is to be genuinely curious about life. My Step-Dad is one of the most curious people I know, and can sometimes drive me crazy asking questions that I have no answers to, but I also love how energetic, creative, and mentally agile he is. Well into his 70s, he’s also incredibly healthy, and doesn’t take a single prescription drug.

Being curious opens you up to ideas, thoughts, and creativity. It is a continual voyage of discovery about life, how things work, and how they can be improved. It can also help you find new things that you love.

Practice Appreciation

Actively appreciating what you do have actually opens you up to discovering new things to appreciate.

There are lots of ways to practice appreciation—write down lists of things you appreciate every day, or as you’re going to sleep, mentally visualize all the events of your day that you appreciate. It’s incredibly powerful to focus on what you appreciate before you even get out of bed in the morning.

Focus on What You Love

We’ve all heard the guidance, “Follow your bliss.” Focusing on and doing things that you love helps open you up to new things.

For me, this was exemplified recently on Pinterest, a virtual pinboard where you can find, organize, and share things that you love. I discovered that I love cars—or more precisely, beautiful pictures of beautiful cars.

As someone who can barely tell a Honda from a Toyota, I was startled to discover my heart a-flutter at just the sheer beauty of a Mercedes Silver Arrow. So I created a board called, “Who Knew I Liked Cars?”

I don’t anticipate that my identification of cars on the road will change, but it was fun to discover that I appreciate something I’ve dismissed my whole life. I already know it will give my Step-Father and me something new to appreciate together.

Zip lining for the first time in Jamaica.

Other ways to reach are to visit new places, try new experiences (I recently tried Zip Lining and loved it!), or talk to new people, even if it’s just standing in the checkout line in the grocery store.

I would love to hear some of the ways that you reach and seek out new things, people, and experiences to enjoy. How does this enhance your life and help you be the best possible version of you?

Together we can do it!

Transformation Mastery

Aside

I am getting excited to start an 18-week challenge tomorrow for Transformation Mastery. During this challenge I am releasing 10 pounds of fat–as well as lingering fear or limiting beliefs about what I can and cannot do. I am also increasing my fitness and nutrition level, and lean muscle mass. I am continuing to strive to be the best that I can be–body, mind, and spirit! This is going to be fun!

Harry Potter and the Quest to Be You

In previous blog posts I’ve professed my love of Harry Potter. More often than not, when I put a book down with a satisfied sigh and desire for the story to continue, it was labeled for children or young adults.

But as an English major, embracing my love of children’s literature felt taboo. I “should” read novels that improve my mind, challenge my humanity, and inspire deep book-club conversations.

While I certainly can analyze prose and burrow around for deeper meaning, I really don’t enjoy it. That’s not what inspired my love of reading as a child. What I loved then—and now—was the flight of imagination, the struggle between good and evil, with good always prevailing, and a foundation in a Universal truth, such as there is nothing more powerful than love.

It took me a long time to embrace this preference as a part of Who I am and to let go of those books that lay neglected on my coffee table either unopened or partially read because they were what I “should” be reading. It took me even longer to stop pretending that I was reading those books and instead share my enthusiasm for the children’s book I was currently in love with.

While embracing my preference for something as inconsequential as reading material may not seem like a big deal, determining what you enjoy and accepting that instead of struggling with what you think you “should” like based on other’s expectations is an important step in being the best possible version of you.

My not acknowledging this part of me led to long bouts where I didn’t read anything at all because I felt so guilty about not liking what I “should” be reading. It inspired a failed try to join a book club that resulted in spoiled friendships. It generated a lot of self-doubt and –criticism, and the fear of other’s judgments kept me from connecting with people who actually do share my passion.

In short, it contributed to my overall feeling of unhappiness and created a lot of negative, catabolic energy that released stress chemicals and other harmful physical processes. It inhibited my ability to achieve optimal wellness and a vibrant life.

Part of being the best possible version of you is letting go of Who you think you should be and embracing Who you really are.

There is a fine line, however, between determining and doing the things that you love, and drawing a boundary around yourself and automatically rejecting new things and experiences. This shuts off personal growth and can also keep you from pursing the ever-changing mark of the best possible version of you.

The perfect balance in the Quest to be You is letting go of what you don’t like, embracing what you do, and looking for new things, people, and experiences that align with you.

Where are you holding on to something that you really don’t enjoy? What is something that for whatever reason you haven’t allowed yourself to enjoy before? How do you feel when you embrace that, and do more of that? What else would be fun to explore?

Together we can do it!

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What Path Are You On?

Nobody experiences or sees the world exactly the way that you do. Because every moment of life is new and ever-changing, all of the individual perspectives in the world are constantly changing and being shaped. The person you are in this moment will be slightly different in the next as you take in these words and the environment around you.

Not only are you influenced by outside experiences, but in this moment you can also consciously choose your perspective, thought, and reaction.

The uniqueness of each individual and their journey is one of my favorite things to ponder. But what does it really mean for our day-to-day lives?

One of the things it can do is help you recognize and accept your innate value. You have value because your experiences and how you see the world are slightly different from anyone else on the planet. You add to the greater whole.

But that’s still pretty esoteric. What does it really mean?

It means that you matter. It means that the greatest gift you can give the world is to be the absolute best possible version of you.

So often, people get caught up in their lives and doing and caring for others that they forget Who they are. They don’t take time to think about what makes them tick? What are their values? What do they enjoy? What’s important to them? How do they want to spend their time? Who do they want to spend time with?

Instead of consciously choosing your path, you may be buffeted along in the hubbub of day-to-day life until you wake up one day and realize you don’t like where you are and that you no longer know the answers to those questions. It’s typically not a pleasant day.

You can also lose sight of Who you are by constantly comparing yourself to other people. If gazing over at someone else’s experience is inspiring, that’s great! Keep doing it. But more often than not, people use the life of another to judge or criticize themselves, their contributions and progress, and their value. You are never going to be able to authentically live another’s life, and trying to do so never feels good.

Other than being somewhat unpleasant, neither of these paths is “bad” or “wrong.” They will still help you create the irreplaceable you, and ultimately taking the scenic route can be very fulfilling.

It’s just that focusing on being the best possible version of you throughout your journey can be a lot more fun and robust. It like catching a wave and riding it into shore versus paddling the whole way.

What does being the best possible version of you mean? Who is that person? What small step can you take today towards being that person?

Together we can do it!

 

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