Do you have confidence in all the choices you’re making? When you make a decision, do you follow through with it? Do you honor the promises you make to yourself?
Each time you question your ability to make a good decision, you are really questioning your belief in yourself.
I used to unintentionally erode my self-confidence by being so afraid to make decisions that I often wouldn’t make any decision at all—which ironically was still making a decision and disempowering myself all at the same time. While I’ve always been careful of the promises I made to others because honoring them was so important to me, I wouldn’t think twice about making and breaking promises to myself.
This presented a continual message that I wasn’t trustworthy. This lack of faith in myself fed my fear of making the wrong decision, which just perpetuated the cycle.
To get off this crazy train, it’s helpful to recognize that each decision you make just leads to another decision. Unless you’re making a decision that will result in life or death, if you don’t like the way you’re going, you can always make a new decision and shift direction.
While our decisions may result in consequences we don’t like, often the fear of the consequences is much worse than actually going through them. Typically, going through those experiences gives us the information we need to figure out what we do want, which enables us to make that new choice.
When you can let go of feeling like every decision is monumental, you can then begin strengthening your beliefs in the choices that you are making. It’s important to let go of an “all or nothing” perspective and look for progress rather than perfection.
Did you make a healthier lunch choice? Win! Did you honor your commitment to get more exercise by parking at the far end of the lot at the grocery store? Win! Did you follow through on a decision that will have short-term pain, but long-term gain? Win!
Today’s assignment in my 21-day Gratitude Challenge is to have confidence in all the choices I am making today and be grateful for being able to believe in myself.
It’s still early, but so far I am on track. I am grateful to myself for following through on my decisions to meditate, workout, eat a healthy breakfast, and write my blog. Win! And I will be more conscious than I normally am of the rest of the decisions I am making today, which is important because I’m still not 100 percent perfect in my self-promises.
It’s still easy to talk myself into a treat when I really want to eat clean, or to read a novel in the evening instead of doing the extra work that I promised myself I would do. It doesn’t mean that I never make the decision to treat myself or relax, but then it’s honoring a decision that I’ve made rather than reneging on another decision.
Pay attention to how well you honor your self-promises. Look for ways that you can strengthen your belief that you can become the best possible you.
Together we can do it!
Really apt message for me today. Situations are often fluid; honoring the intent of a promise while paying attention to how the realization of that promise feels moment to moment and responding accordingly is really important for me. I feel really good about my day so far, progress is definitely being made!
Woo hoo on recognizing the progress and feeling good, David. Sending you lots of love and positive energy as you move through the decisions you will make in this day.
I found this post particularly apt except one crucial aspect. My decision essentially needs to come from a space of “ownership” and passion. I believe this is the only way to effectively move forward and successfully hold accountability.
Thanks so much, Shakti. Knowing what we need for accountability and to keep us on track is key. Thanks so much for sharing and making that excellent point! Hanna