You Are So Beautiful!

What is beautiful to you?

Does it involve a certain body weight or shape? A certain wellness level? When you look in the mirror do you see your definition of beauty smiling back?

I often hear clients focused on wanting to change how others see women and judge beauty. There is much frustration that women on television and in ads are significantly thinner than average. People point to pundits’ criticisms of specific bodies. There are many photos of past sex symbols who were less than lean tied to complaints about the changing definition of beauty.

But how likely is it that you are going to change society, or the modeling, television, or advertising industries?

Wouldn’t it be easier to focus on your own judgments and definition of beauty?

Until you are so pure in your appreciation of every woman’s body and beauty that a critical thought is never entertained, until your actions align 100 percent with your personal definition of wellness, and you can look in the mirror with not only appreciation but adoration, you have no power to change anyone else.

You may want others to deem you—or more women—as beautiful, but before that can happen, you must judge yourself as beautiful first. And you must allow everyone else to have their own definition of beauty.

This is the sticking point for most women. You have to stop looking outside of you for self-esteem, appreciation, and acceptance. Those are things you have to give to yourself.

It is only when you began making these internal changes that you will begin to see lasting external changes.

To do this, you have to begin:

  • Letting go of the fear of other people’s judgments.
  • Aligning your actions with your beliefs and desires.
  • Looking for and appreciating your beauty and innate value—body, mind, and spirit

Instead of trying to change others, how would it feel to examine your own judgments and definition of beauty? How could you begin to align more fully with that?

The best way to change the world is to change how you see yourself.

Together we can do it!

Does This Blog Make Me Look Thin?

While off celebrating my 20th anniversary, I’m sharing a few of my favorite blogs that you might have missed.

Have you ever lost weight, but after you met your goal you still felt fat? When you looked in the mirror, all you saw were the flaws?

How quickly did you gain back the weight?

Our thoughts and feelings are much more powerful than most people understand. When you take into account the Foundation Principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy,” also known as the Law of Attraction, you begin to understand that how you see yourself and where you put your focus can make a difference in how well you maintain your weight loss.

To truly be a lean, strong, and fit person, it’s incredibly helpful to see yourself as a lean, strong, and fit person—at least most of the time.

One of the reasons is that when you feel thin you begin to take on the behavioral characteristics of someone who is thin.

For instance, how much easier is it to resist those chocolate chip cookies if you are feeling confident and excited about being lean, strong, and fit versus seeing yourself as fat with no hope of ever having a beautiful body?

Most people see themselves through filters of self-criticism, limiting beliefs, assumptions about past experiences repeating themselves, and self-created interpretations about their lives.

Diet and exercise alone doesn’t alter those self-perceptions. Those changes have to come from the inside out.

Removing those negative, catabolic filters and shifting your self-perception so you can truly see yourself living the life you want takes time, energy, and practice, just as creating a healthy lifestyle takes time, energy, and practice.

When you practice both the internal and external changes you begin consciously creating the life of your dreams.

How can you practice feeling thin, along with healthy eating and moving your body? How much more effective is that at helping you lose weight–and keep it off?

Together we can do it!

Photo by Stuart Miles /

Focus on the Feeling

I want to be thin right now.

I want to have that new job or career right now.

I want a better relationship right now.

Often, when we are ready to make a change, we are impatient to have it. We want it right now.

What if that feeling of impatience was actually slowing the process of you getting what you want?

It’s confusing because we feel like we’re focused on what we want, but that feeling of impatience—or yearning—is really letting us know that we’re more focused on the fact that we aren’t thin right now, or that our current job, relationship, or whatever it is that we want, stinks.

Regardless of where your focus is, how likely is it that the new and improved version of what you want is going to materialize instantly? If the problem didn’t show up overnight, it’s not likely that the solution will be instantaneous either.

But what if you could have the feeling of that new thing right now?

We typically want those new things because of how we will feel when we have them. We often tell ourselves, “When I am thin, have that new job, or better relationship, then I can be happy.”

Maybe you can’t instantly have the thing you want, but if you allow it, you can instantly have the feeling that the thing you want will give you.

When you think about the foundation principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy,” also known as the Law of Attraction, then it makes sense that the energy from yearning would attract more of the situation that is creating the yearning. The energy from the feeling you are ultimately trying to attain attracts more situations that create that feeling.

Take a moment to think about how being thin or having that new job or relationship—or whatever it is you want—would make you feel. What can you do to feel that way right now?

Think about other things that give you that feeling, and practice that feeling as much as possible. Doing that will support you on your journey towards creating that new situation, rather than holding you back.

Together we can do it!

Photo by Stuart Miles /