Wellness Tip of the Day: Expecting results is powerful. How much you hold back on willing to believe you can achieve your goal is how much you will fall short.
On this day of your life, I believe God wants you to know that how bad things may look right now means nothing. It’s how good you know they can look with God’s help that counts.
Neale Donald Walsch
Are you focused on the problem or are you focused on expanding your belief and knowing that everything is always working out for you?
If you said, “Yes, but” or wanted to explain to me how things really aren’t working out for you, then you’re focused on the problem. And you are getting more of what you’re focused on.
Achieving anything first begins with the belief that it is possible. If you don’t believe it, how hard are you going to work? How much are you willing to try before you give up? How much will you sabotage your own efforts to prove yourself right?
One of the most famous examples of this is Thomas Edison. It would take him almost two years of failed attempts, new discoveries and prototypes before he would find success in creating the carbon filament light bulb.
After Edison’s seven-hundredth unsuccessful attempt, he was asked by a New York Times reporter, “How does it feel to have failed 700 times?”
He responded, “I have not failed 700 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 700 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.” It is said he tried over 6,000 different carbonized plant fibers looking for a carbon filament for his light bulb.
Do you think he would have continued undaunted if he didn’t believe that he would ultimately find the solution that would work?
How can you begin stretching your beliefs to accept that wellness and wellbeing—or the essence of whatever it is that you want—are possible?
There are many, many ways, but here are a few:
- Disregard what others have told you. Unless it is a Universal Truth, meaning it is true no matter who, no matter where, no matter how, then it does not have to be true for you.
- Stop struggling. Relax and just accept that where you are is just where you are in the journey. Things are shifting and changing, even if you can’t see it.
- Expect a different outcome. Just because you’ve tried something in the past doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try again. Analyze what didn’t work before and try again with the new information.
- Have a little faith. Trust that All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) not only has the power to make the planet rotate so perfectly that we can predict when the sun will rise and set and the pattern of stars across the night sky, but also can bring about the solution that is best for everyone involved.
What can you do to begin stretching your beliefs to accept that what you want is possible? What happens to your actions when you begin to believe and then know? How much more fun is the journey to where you want to go?
Together we can do it!
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Whatever you’re thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you’re worrying, you are planning. When you’re appreciating you are planning…What are you planning?
Abraham as interpreted by Esther Hicks
“Miracles are happening, seen and unseen.”
This is the mantra that has been going through my head all weekend. And I absolutely believe it to the tips of my toes.
Every time I was critical of my body or discouraged that my physical progress in my 18-week Transformation Challenge isn’t further along, I said it.
Every time I thought about the future and doubted, I said it.
Every time I caught myself concerned or worried, I said it.
Because this is my life I’m creating. If I want things to be different, then my thoughts, feelings, and beliefs have to be different first.
When you think about the Foundation Principle that “Like Energy Attracts Like Energy,” also known as the Law of Attraction, it makes sense that if you’re doubting, worrying, or being critical of yourself or others you’re attracting more of that same energy back to you. In other words, you’re creating more things about which to doubt, worry, or be critical.
A quick way to check what you’re thinking, and therefore creating, is to examine what you expect. Do you expect things to work out—or not? Do you expect life to go your way—or not? Do you expect things to be easy—or not? You’re getting more of what you expect.
All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) absolutely wants you to have every good thing you desire, but you have to open the vibrational-door wide enough to receive it.
You’re opening that door when you’re experiencing positive anabolic emotions, such as hope, contentment, eagerness, excitement, joy, and love.
Even more powerful than shifting those negative catabolic thoughts and emotions is to build on the anabolic, because that’s what you truly want more of.
So every time this weekend that I caught myself feeling confident, I reminded myself that “Miracles are happening, seen and unseen.”
Every time I was appreciating something, I said it.
Every time I was laughing, I said it.
Every time I felt loved or loving, I said it.
Perhaps you don’t believe in miracles. Do you believe in answers and solutions? Then replace miracles with a word that does bring a feeling of relief, because that’s all that’s needed to shift to a more anabolic state. Every time you make even a tiny shift towards being more anabolic, you open the door a little wider for the Universe to give you the answers, solutions—and even miracles—that you’re asking for.
What can you do to remind yourself that answers, solutions, and miracles are coming? More importantly, what can you do to believe it?
Together we can do it!
Wellness Tip of the Day: When you catch yourself doubting, worrying, or critical, remind yourself that answers, solutions, and even miracles are coming. Believe it.
“Wait a minute,” you might say. “I don’t have those things. How can I believe anything other than the fact that I don’t have optimal wellness or well-being?”
And there is the problem.
Most people approach life with the expectation that they will “believe it when they see it.” They want hard facts, statistics, and reality to back them up. “Show me the money,” they say.
But this defies every spiritual guidance and practice. What is faith other than believing that all things are possible? That when you ask, it is given, and that it is up to you to “believe it and you will see it?”
Often people pray by continually asking for the same thing over and over again. By asking more than once, you are essentially telling All-That-Is (God, the Universe, Source Energy, Higher Coach—whatever works for you) that not only don’t you have the thing you want, but that you don’t believe or have faith that what you are asking for is coming.
The first step to creating optimal wellness and well-being is then to first believe that it is even possible.
This is why it is called a leap of faith. You have to disregard the evidence around you and trust that the wellness and well-being you have asked for is yours. That the process for its arrival is underway—much as you trust that UPS is bringing you the shirt you ordered regardless of the fact that you didn’t watch the shirt being packaged, loaded up on the truck, and going from point to point until it is delivered to you.
And it’s usually not that direct. Achieving optimal wellness and well-being is a process that is measured by continual growth and progress. It is something you are always in the state of achieving, so it’s even more important to focus on the evidence that supports your belief rather than the evidence that does not.
What does optimal wellness and well-being mean to you? How much do you believe that it is possible to achieve? What can you do to begin to embrace the possibility?
Together we can do it!
Wellness Tip of the Day: To create optimal wellness and well-being you must first believe it is possible.
I have spent the morning envisioning my future, and it is good.
This is part of an assignment for a workshop I am taking with my mentor coach, the fabulous Jennifer Barley. While I’ve done visioning exercises in the past that have been powerful, this time it feels even more profound and freeing. But I expect even this vision will expand and evolve as I do, because life is a continuous growing process.
Visioning is simple in that you are envisioning the life that you want to live. The challenge is that often people are unknowingly focused on what they don’t want. Anything that has “not” or “don’t” in front of it is focused on what you don’t want. For instance, “I don’t want to be fat” is still focused on fat. “I don’t want to be in debt” is still focused on debt.
What you’re really saying is that you want to be fit, strong, and lean. You want to be financially free.
Visioning can be words or images (think vision board)—whatever evokes the feeling you want your life to generate. The more fully you can paint this picture in your mind by incorporating all the physical senses, the more powerful it is.
Ultimately you want your vision to give your life direction and to inspire action. And when you take into account the Foundation Principle that “Energy Attracts Like Energy,” also known as the Law of Attraction, it makes sense to as clearly as possible put your focus on what you want.
Interestingly, what I did with this vision is actually get away from specific directives, such as “I want this amount of money by this date.” Instead I described the essence of what I want, which makes my goal feel much more believable. For instance, many of the women I work with have a hard time looking at themselves in the mirror and saying, “I am beautiful.” It just feels like a lie. They can’t allow themselves to feel or believe it. That internal struggle really isn’t helpful when you are trying to envision the life that you want to live. So anytime I felt even the hint of resistance in myself, I tweaked the wording until I could fully embrace it.
I also did sort of a combination vision statement and vision board by incorporating images alongside my vision statements that help me tap into the emotion and detail I want. Because many of the images are things I don’t have the authority to share over the internet, I can’t show you the finished piece, which is now printed out on ledger paper and posted on the wall in front of my computer. I also incorporated color and formatting that I’m not including here.
My intention with sharing my vision statement is to help you think about yours. How do you want your body, mind, spiritual connection, relationships, work, and any other element of life to be in the future? How can you connect with your vision on a daily basis? What kind of impact does that have on your life?
Together we can do it!
I Am Free to Be Me ♦ I Am in Love With Life ♦ I Am Joy ♦ I Am Love ♦ I Am Clarity
I Am Fun ♦ I Am Laughter ♦ I Am Inspiring ♦ I Am Powerful ♦ I Am Intention ♦ I Am Present
I Am Whole ♦ I Am Conscious ♦ I Am Authentic ♦ I Am Natural ♦ I Am Ease ♦ I Am Fulfilled
♦ I Am Appreciation ♦
My Spiritual connection is intentional, constant, and clear. I use my emotions to guide me to an ever-growing, richer, fuller, and more fulfilling life-experience. I am whole and in-tune with my Higher-Self. I am delighted and enchanted with my life as it is unfolding. More and more moments feel like sheer magic. I am Who I intend and I am in love with life. My heart overflows with appreciation.
I love and appreciate my strong, lean, and powerful body that is functioning optimally and fully allows me to express my authentic best. I naturally and intentionally gravitate to delicious, high-energy foods that I savor. I love moving my body with intention and intensity. I naturally give my body attention, care, and nourishment.
My mind is nourished, strong, and expanding. I naturally gravitate to information, ideas, and even entertainment that enhances my knowledge, awareness, clarity, and consciousness. Learning is natural and fun.
My relationship is easy, loving, satisfying, and fun. Together we are positive, dynamic, heart-centered, and living in the moment. We explore, engage- and connect-with, expand, and enjoy each other and life. We share on all levels—mind, body, and spirit. We give each other the freedom to fully explore and create our best selves. We listen with our whole hearts, often have moments where we laugh until we cry, and support each other unconditionally. We have open, loving, deep, and honest communication. Together we fully express our love physically—making love, a caress, a hug, holding hands, a touch in passing.
My animal and human family knows they are loved and adored. With them, I am present, heart-centered, and intuitive. We are connected and in-tune. We hear and acknowledge each other fully. We have fun together.
I am inspiring myself and more people than I ever imagined. My remembering and connecting-with Who-I-Truly-Am is a beacon guiding others towards their healthiest and Highest Selves, and their brightening lights serve to expand my own understanding and clarity, which continues to inspire myself and others. We share an ever-expanding circle of growth, clarity, connection, and inspiration. The energy and value that I share in my coaching and the words that I speak and write magnetically attracts an abundant income. I am financially free.
My home is a comfortable and elegant space where things feel loving and easy. It is filled with positive energy, sunlight, life, and colors that I love. I have space dedicated to my body, space dedicated to my mind, space dedicated to my career, space dedicated to my soul, and space dedicated to the people and animals I love. The beautiful view connects me to nature and to Source, and there are many comfortable and easy-to-be spaces indoors and out that help me enjoy that connection to the fullest. My home is filled with love, laughter, beauty, and joy.
I am having fun playing indoors and out. I am listening to music, watching fun, uplifting, and inspiring TV, movies, and plays, and am reading books that fill my heart with joy. I am hiking, biking, walking, picnicking and otherwise connecting with nature. I am traveling, exploring and loving this fun, interesting, vibrant, and exciting world. Wonderful anabolic friends are connected with everywhere I go and we enrich each other’s lives.
I Am Intentional ♦ I Am Constant ♦ I Am Clear
While I’m away at coach training for a few days, I’m running a few of my favorite blogs that you may have missed.
Do you love your body? Do you love the food that you eat? Do you love the exercise that you’re doing, and the feeling of moving your body? Do you love to sweat?
What emotions did you feel when you read those questions? Did they bring up strong positive or negative reactions? Since our bodies and our lives are a reflection of our predominate thoughts, feelings, and beliefs, does your emotional reaction match the experience that you’re having with your body right now?
I used to hate my body and spent much of my time feeling horrible about how I looked. I hated exercise. I was a picky eater and I never appreciated or truly enjoyed what I was eating in the moment. Is it any wonder that I struggled with a weight problem my entire life and was a sickly kid? My body was emotionally and physically abused—by me!
It wasn’t until I truly understood that we are what we think, feel, and believe that I began to change my thoughts about my body. I started with gratitude, finally appreciating how hard my body was working for me despite how I fed it poor-quality food, didn’t move much, and was incredibly harsh in my criticism. It really was a miracle that my body was as healthy as it was.
I began to focus on consciously appreciating and enjoying the food I ate. I focused more on why I wanted to eat right and exercise than on all the reasons I didn’t. Over time, eating healthy food and exercising began to be something I enjoyed.
The more I began shifting my thoughts and feelings to what I wanted, the easier it became to do those things that would move me to towards who I wanted to be and the life I wanted to live.
Today, I love and appreciate my body. I love being strong, fit, and lean. I love being active. I love eating mostly healthy foods and how good I feel as a result. And I love to really get after a workout and sweat.
Pay attention to how you feel about your body, diet, exercise—really, your life. How much are you loving or hating it? How can you shift your thoughts and emotions towards feeling just a little bit better?
Do that, and it won’t be long until you are exactly where you want to be.
Together we can do it!
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You have set the goal and intention to reduce your weight and improve your health so that you can be the best parent, partner, and person you can be.
What feels better—to get up and do the workout, or to stay in bed?
While you may assume that staying in the warm and comfy bed feels better—does it really? Can you honestly say you don’t’ feel discord, both in that moment and later when you get up? How do you feel about yourself throughout the day when you think about that missed workout?
Now if you were truly at peace and it felt good to stay in bed, you probably needed the sleep. But if you listen to your heart, you can always feel if your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions are in alignment—even if you are taking an action that on the surface seems like it would feel way harder.
This is true whether you are reducing your weight, improving your life, or standing up for something that you believe in. Your emotions are your direction, gauge, guidance, indicator, litmus test letting you know if you are moving towards who you are meant to be, or are taking a detour.
My Mother taught me this from her example. In 1957, she was a student at Little Rock
Central High School when it was first integrated by nine African-American students. She did what she felt was right. Simple things, liking sharing her desk and math text book with one of the incoming students on their first day. Smiling and offering encouragement throughout the year.
And for this, she was spat on, harassed, and sent threatening notes on almost a daily basis. The other white students made her last year of high school a living hell. And yet she did not waver.
To this day, I don’t think she feels better about anything else she has done in life. If anything, her regret is that she didn’t do more.
But clearly she did enough. During one of the anniversaries of the integration, Oprah Winfrey asked the Little Rock Nine, as the students came to be known, if any white students had helped. My mother was the only one they remembered. Oprah flew my mother out to her studios and reunited her with the student with whom she had shared her book, and he let her know how very important her smile across a room had been.
Doing what feels good, what feels right, what feels like it is in alignment with who you are, what you value, what you believe, and who you want to be may be damn hard. But the reward will always be absolutely worth it.
Doing what feels good does not necessarily mean doing what is easy. Nothing feels better than doing the work to meet your goals, or facing the challenge.
Together we can do it!
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